" 𝐘𝐨𝐮 𝐡𝐚𝐯𝐞 𝐭𝐨 𝐩𝐮𝐭 𝐢𝐧 𝐦𝐚𝐧𝐲, 𝐦𝐚𝐧𝐲, 𝐦𝐚𝐧𝐲 𝐭𝐢𝐧𝐲 𝐞𝐟𝐟𝐨𝐫𝐭𝐬 𝐭𝐡𝐚𝐭 𝐧𝐨𝐛𝐨𝐝𝐲 𝐬𝐞𝐞𝐬 𝐨𝐫 𝐚𝐩𝐩𝐫𝐞𝐜𝐢𝐚𝐭𝐞𝐬 𝐛𝐞𝐟𝐨𝐫𝐞 𝐲𝐨𝐮 𝐚𝐜𝐡𝐢𝐞𝐯𝐞 𝐚𝐧𝐲𝐭𝐡𝐢𝐧𝐠 𝐰𝐨𝐫𝐭𝐡𝐰𝐡𝐢𝐥𝐞 "
🔥 Bảng thành tích vàng của IELTS With Datio vinh dự thêm một điểm 8.0 overall nữa với 7.5 Writing và 8.0 Speaking của 1 học viên lớp TN07 do thầy Đạt phụ trách vừa rồi. Với sự say mê, nổ lực luyện tập không ngừng, bạn đã đạt được kết quả thật sự rất ấn tượng. Hãy cùng chúc mừng bạn nào <3
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“ Chào các bạn, mình vừa thi máy ngày 22/12/2019 ở IDP, được Overall 8 (trong đó có Write 7.5 và Speak 8.0). So với nhiều bạn khác mình không phải xức xắc gì, cơ mà bài này mình mạn phép chia sẻ cách mình học tiếng anh nói chung và luyện IELTS nói riêng. Mình chỉ chia sẻ những gì mình làm và có hiệu quả với mình, một đứa chronic procrastinator và chỉ tiếp thu tốt qua lỗ tai. Phần đầu sẽ nói về việc tăng trình độ tiếng anh nói chung, phần tiếp về việc luyện thi IELTS nói riêng, và phần cuối về việc đi thi và 1 số tips.
Trước hết, có 3 ý mình muốn nói:
1/ Không có secret sauce cho việc học ngoại ngữ hoặc tăng overall band score, chỉ là mình 90% là say mê + luyện tập và 10% là kiến thức (some of which mình sẽ chia sẻ phía dưới). Để luyện tập mà có tiến bộ thì bạn phải có commitment (trách nhiệm & quyết tâm). Và mình commit bằng cách học thêm và tự học với partner. Kiến thức thì đầy trên facebook ấy, khi bạn chưa có ý định thi IELTS thì đọc cho biết và nếu xài được thì tốt. Nếu đã quyết định thi thì không nên đọc nữa, vì nó nhiều và mênh mang, bạn sẽ bị dễ bị tâm lý. Nếu bạn đọc mà không cảm thấy stressed và thấy mình xài được thì cứ việc nhé, còn nếu cảm thấy đọc xong lại thấy kiến thức nhiều quá không biết khi nào học mới hết, thấy mình thiếu sót và thua kém, thì thôi tốt hơn đừng đọc. lúc này là lúc học ít xài nhiều cho quen, và chỉ học những cái chất nhất chứ đừng học tràn lan mà cuối cùng không xài được gì. Nhiều cái chất mình đã học được từ thầy mình, mít tơ Datio.
2/ Cách nhớ tốt nhất là repetition - sự lặp lại.
Lặp lại giúp reinforce kiến thức đã biết. Nếu biết sơ sơ thì sẽ biết kỹ hơn, nếu biết kỹ rồi thì xài được luôn và nó trở thành 1 phần của bạn. Việc này xảy ra khi bạn luyện tập speaking, với bạn trong lớp, study buddy, hay bất cứ ai. Lặp lại giúp ổn định tinh thần, mình sẽ được nói rõ hơn ở phần III - đi thi
3/ Nếu bạn cần motivation, thì phương châm của mình là động lực đến sau khi bạn hoàn thành việc luyện tập, chứ không đến trước, vì trong lúc học nếu bạn nào từng luyện đề, thì nhiều lúc nó tedious và mentally draining (mệt não) lắm. Chỉ khi bạn làm xong rồi thì mới thấy nhẹ nhõm vì biết mình đã hoàn thành một cái gì đó, và nhận biết mình đang có tiến bộ vì việc mình vừa làm (làm xong nhớ review lại coi mình sai gì nha). Điều này cũng đúng khi tự nhiên bạn in the mood có cảm hứng học một hôm, xong hôm sau hết mood không học, xong bẵng đi 6 tháng sau bạn lại có mood, rồi lại xìu không học nữa. Hãy nhớ là cảm hứng đến sau sự cố gắng nhé, và dù hard work có tedious cách mấy, hãy nhớ người thành công là người luôn prepare trong khi người khác đang goof around (đi chơi, lười biếng). Để tập trung luyện tập thì hãy nhớ, ý chí là hữu hạn, nên bạn hãy ưu tiên việc luyện tập trước khi willpower của bạn deplete/drain nha.
Nếu bạn còn một tuần hoặc vài ngày trước khi thi, bỏ qua phần I, II và chỉ đọc phần III thôi nhé. Bây giờ mình bắt đầu nào.
I. Tăng trình độ:
Speaking + Listening:
Bao gồm input (kiến thức_nạp) và output (luyện tập_xuất). Nếu không có in thì khó có out. Nếu không có out thì khó nhớ in.
Input: không có gì mới. coi phim, xem tin tức, xem youtube, đọc/viết review, đọc truyện... về đọc truyện, có nhiều app interactive story, có đồ hoạ đẹp, đọc không dài như sách, và cho phép mình make my own choice, các bạn có thể thử Moments, Choice,… Ngoài ra, mình có sở thích coi phim, ngoài việc tại vì nó hay, mình có thể mổ xẻ/phân tích/bàn luận/ review hoặc đọc review về plot, subplot, characters, acting, direction, dialogue,... nó còn là nguồn để để luyện nghe và lượm từ theo ngữ cảnh. Mình hay binge-watch (luyện) mấy series trên netflix á. Lúc 4 năm trước khi mình thi lần đầu (overall 6.5), mình bật phụ đề việt, vừa đọc vừa tự dịch trong đầu coi nó có khớp những gì mình nghe không, có thì nhớ từ lâu, không thì học từ mới. Sau khi quen rồi thì eng sub thoy. Trong khi coi mình còn làm một việc là observe & analyze pronunciation. để làm được việc này bạn sẽ phải có một chút kiến thức về ngữ âm (Phonetics). (Mình học trên trường đại học môn này và sau đó thế giới của mình đã được khai sáng :D). 4 mảng chính cần tập trung trong phonetics (mình không đi sâu vì nhiều youtuber đã nói rồi, các bạn search là ra):
• cách phát âm nguyên âm, phụ âm. trong nguyên âm có âm dài âm ngắn. trong phụ âm có các cặp âm (âm rung & âm bật hơi thì phải, lâu mình cũng không nhớ nữa)
• intonation (question, statement)
• stress (noun, adj, adv & verb)
• difference in pronunciation of content word & function word. Mình thích bài học này nhất vì nó dạy mình người bản xứ nói lướt chữ như thế nào (vd, từ “to”, “for”, “that”, ”can”, … có các cách phát âm khác nhau), các ca sĩ phát âm cuối và một số từ trong khi hát như thế nào (vd: ”love”, “i”, “my”,…), và mình bắt chước theo.
Output: (self-)study buddy/ partner để luyện IELTS chung. Lưu ý số lượng partner chỉ nên là 1 người, hoặc nhiều nhất là 2, để bạn có nhiều thời gian luyện tập và lắng nghe. Các bạn nên luyện face-to-face, hoặc luyện nói qua voice call mỗi ngày cũng được (nhấn mạnh "mỗi ngày”), cơ mà gặp trực tiếp hiệu quả hơn nhiều nhiều. Hãy cố nói ra những gì vừa học được ở Input nhé. Nói thật thì mình cũng học cà chớn lắm, bữa đực bữa cái vì bệnh lười mãn tính, nước tới chân mới nhảy. Nhưng mà mình nghĩ ở nhà là không làm được tích sự gì nên phải xách mông đi học.
• Luyện pronunciation: mình có bệnh cứ đọc sách giấy là 5 phút sau lăn ra ngủ, vì mình tiếp thu bằng mắt cực kỳ yếu. Tuy nhiên khi nghe thì mình tiếp thu khá nhanh, nên mình hay read out loud để không lăn ra ngủ, và để luyện pronunciation + áp dụng các điểm phonetics ở trên luôn. Một số bạn thì học tốt nhất khi đọc, nên các bạn xem mình tiếp thu tốt nhất qua mắt hay tai hay qua việc vận động, rồi thực hành đọc hay nghe tuỳ theo nhé. Không nên ép bản thân đi ngược lại xu hướng tự nhiên của mình.
II. Luyện thi:
Writing: less is more
Về writing thì mình thúi quắc, hồi trước một bài mình viết hoàn chỉnh chắc khoảng 3-4 tiếng đồng hồ á; nên khi thi lần 2 mình đã đi học thêm và thi máy. They say learn from the best, và the best mình biết khi quyết định bỏ tiền đi học thêm là thầy Datio. Tại sao mình quyết định học thêm thay vì tự học? Thứ nhất, vì mình cảm thấy có thể học được nhiều từ một người thầy giỏi. Thứ 2, vì mình siêuuu lười (hỏi bạn mình sẽ rõ) và là 1 đứa chronic procrastinator, nên việc siêng năng học writing 1 mình trong vòng 3 tháng đối với mình là một sự viển vông, là tự lừa dối :)). Học thêm để có 1 sense of duty/commitment and actually/actively learn something, not goofing around. Và học thêm để hệ thống kiến thức systematically, chứ không học tràn lan. Thứ 3, vì nay đã nghèo còn lỡ đóng một cục tiền, một buổi tính ra 330k no less... thật xót xa T^T, nên mình quyết định học cho nát, cho đáng cục tiền ahuhu.
Mình đã được gì từ khi mất cục tiền?
• Strategy/template: Task 2 thầy dạy nhiều hơn một strategies/templates cơ mà mình nghĩ mình chỉ viết 1 bài task 2, nên mình chọn 1 và chỉ học 1. Bài nào mình viết cũng theo cái template đó sất. Phương châm của mình là less is more, học ít xài nhiều còn hơn học một đống không xài, nên theo mình bạn hãy chọn ra 1 template thấy ưng nhất và stick with it nhé.
• Tăng grammatical complexity, biến/ghép/nối câu đơn thành ghép and phức and ghép phức. Biến chủ động thành bị động. Thêm conditional. Thêm compare/contrast. Thầy có phát cho 1 trang checklist xịn, nếu include được 1 số điểm trong đó thì điểm không dưới 7, với điều kiện phải có accuracy (không mắc nhiều lỗi và dùng chính xác) nhé.
• Học 80 collocations phổ biến nhất và xài được trong bất kỳ hoàn cảnh nào. Sau đó xài đi xài lại (repetition). Không nên ham hố kiếm thêm trên mạng để học nhiều hơn vì sẽ không nhớ và ít xài.
Một điều nữa là time is your greatest asset in writing test, nên bạn nào chưa tự tin với task 1 thì viết task 2 trước nha. Lần đầu mình thi mình viết task 1 hết 40’, còn 20’ cho task 2 :)) . Lần này mình hên task 2 ngay chủ đề tủ environment, nên mình viết nó trước hết 45’, còn 15’ task 1 dạng table. Hên mình thi máy, vì mình hay xoá ý viết lại, mà thi máy cho mình copy paste, nên mới kịp giờ á. Không là teo rồi.
Speaking: học tủ part 2
Luyện đề (hay còn gọi là học tủ) với buddy. Mình không nói bạn viết câu trả lời ra học thuộc, nhưng bạn luyện các câu hỏi trong bộ đề sao cho nó fluent, để khi hỏi lại thì bạn không phải rặn vì rặn sẽ mất fluency. Đề thì trên mạng đầy, nhưng mà bạn nên luyện trước chứ đừng để cận ngày nhé. Đừng để như mình tới khoảng trước một tuần thì mình đã xoắn ghép cực đại, không kịp luyện part 1 hay 3, mà chỉ học tủ một số part 2 thoy. -_-
Đối với part 1 và 3, mình học theo dạng câu và áp dụng các expressions + strategies theo chủ đề. Một số từ/expressions xịn theo chủ đề, và cấu trúc xịn mình đã lựm từ lớp học thêm. Mình học thêm được khá nhiều cho từng part hoặc từng dạng câu. Học build strategies, vd general strategy để làm dài câu trả lời, hoặc để trả lời khi bạn méo bik trả lời, strategy nâng điểm grammar (biết câu đơn thành phức).
Học với study buddy: (mine was Hồng Anh, thi hôm 14/12 - IELTS 7.0)
• To speak English with you day in day out. Dùng những gì mình vừa mới học, như mình đã mention, repetition. Hai điều quan trọng khi học với partner: 1/ các bạn phải feedback cho nhau dựa theo 4 tiêu chí chấm điểm; và 2/ các bạn phải nitpick, bắt lỗi nhau để ensure grammatical accuracy. Mình học speaking với bạn, khi bạn or mình mỗi lần mắc 1 lỗi sai ngữ pháp cơ bản sẽ đóng 1k. (hồi đó mình còn áp dụng mỗi lần ngập ngừng và nói “ờ" là 1k để tăng fluency, để bạn think twice trước khi “ờ”. Mất nhiều tiền bạn sẽ dần dần bớt “ờ" và có thể suy nghĩ/phản xạ nhanh hơn)
• To teach. if you wanna master something, the best way is to teach it. Bạn luyện đề IELTS chung, học xong dạy lại → repetition, để reinforce & apply những gì đã học.
• To thúc đít nhau mỗi khi buồn ngủ. Empower each other and Give each other a sense of duty and commitment. Trong một buổi học với partner bạn hãy đề ra mục tiêu buổi học đó, vd viết xong một bài writing t2, làm xong một test reading/listening,… túm lại là phải đạt được goal mới được về. Mình là chronic procrastinator nên mình chỉ học được khi học với thầy or bạn thoy, còn lại bảo mình về nhà làm bài tập thì được mấy bữa đầu học 1 mình, sau đó phải gặp partner mới mong accomplish anything lol. Anw, hãy mặt dày và clingy trong thời gian học với partner, chiếm hết thời gian rảnh của partner để hẹn hò IELTS nhe.
Một điều lưu ý khi học với partner, là attention span (khả năng tập trung) của chúng ta có hạn. Đối với mình khi học với partner quá 3 tiếng não mình sẽ đình công, hay còn gọi là bị táo bón não, nghĩa là bạn học vô (reading/listening) cũng không được mà học ra (speaking/writing) cũng không xong vì rặn mãi cũng không ra được. Lúc này bạn nên xoã, chuyển qua chế độ học passive, nghĩa là xem phim coi youtube bật nhạc quẩy giải trí đó. Chứ không nên nhồi nhét thêm vì não đã bị drained hết chất xám rồi, học nữa sẽ bị demotivated nhé.
Listening + Reading:
Luyện hết đề trên trang ieltsonlinetests.com. À bạn ơi bộ actual test không nên làm vì đề không chuẩn, nên làm bộ IELTS practice test plus 1,2,3 chuẩn hơn đó nha. Sau khi làm một đề, việc bạn làm sẽ không có 1 cái ý nghĩa nào nếu bạn không biết tại sao mình sai, nên hãy dò các câu sai + các câu chưa chắc hoặc nhất là đánh lụi để hiểu rõ vì sao đáp án nó lại rứa nha. Một tip khi luyện reading nữa là xem expressions của các dạng đề, và chiến thuật để giải quyết bài, làm dạng nào trước/sau để tiết kiệm thời gian, cách sắp xếp của câu hỏi,…cái này học thầy Datio có chia sẻ, and it comes in quite handy.
III. Đi Thi
Phần tâm lý rất quan trọng. Một số bạn chuẩn bị kỹ về kiến thức nhưng bỏ qua phần này, để lúc đi thi thì bị hoảng nên không làm tốt giống nhưng lúc chuẩn bị. Vì vậy phần này mình sẽ viết về việc chuẩn bị mentally/psychologically khi đi thi.
1. Ngày trước ngày thi_setup tinh thần
Nếu bạn là một đứa dễ bị bấn loạn hay bồn chồn trước một cái challenge nào đó, trong trường hợp này là kỳ thi IELTS (especially speaking test), thì có lẽ những típ sau sẽ work for you. Mình mỗi lần đi thi sẽ bị panic attack. Đầu, tay chân và lưng sẽ bị lạnh, cứng ngắc, chuyển sang màu trắng và toát mồ hôi. Hơi thở và nhịp tim tăng, tim đập mạnh, máu khó lưu thông và mình có xu hướng trốn chạy vì sợ hãi. Trong trường hợp đó mình hay làm những việc sau:
Step 1: be mindful of your body and that you are nervous, on edge. Như mình nói ở trên, bạn sẽ thở gấp và các cơ trên cơ thể của bạn sẽ bị căng và cứng. Việc mình làm là slow down nhịp thở, hít vào đếm từ một đến 5, thở ra cũng vậy. Thả lỏng lưng, vai, cổ, đầu, cơ mặt, trán, lông mày (nếu đang chau mày thì đừng chau), mắt, má, khoé miệng. Let it go. Cố đưa nhịp thở về mức bình thường.
Step 2: lặp đi lặp lại với bản thân (repeat the mantra): "mình chỉ vào tán gẫu/chém gió với giám khảo." mình chỉ have a chat with examiner. Nghĩ là mình đang educate giám khảo về bản thân, về những gì mình biết, họ chỉ lắng nghe chứ không judge mình. Đặt mình ở vị thế ngang với giám khảo, thậm chí đặt cao hơn. Để bạn feel better. Và từ khoá ở đây là repetition. Bạn phải làm nhiều lần nó mới hiệu quả nhe.
Nếu bạn nào từng có tiền sử khi bấn loạn thì hay bị đau bụng hay lạnh tay (vì cảm thấy quá quắn quéo), thì mình hay áp dụng kỹ thuật NLP (ngôn ngữ lập trình tư duy). Khi bị xoắn trước khi thi hãy lặp đi lặp lại trong đầu một trải nghiệm làm bạn thấy tự hào. Một tình huống challenging nhưng bạn đã ace/slay it. Recall in detail tình huống/khó khăn đó là gì, bạn đã cảm thấy như thế nào trước khi đối diện với nó. Trong tình huống đó bạn đã làm gì. Và khi đối diện với nó bạn đã slay nó như thế nào. Ví dụ, mình đã tưởng tượng đến hôm thuyết trình thực tập tốt nghiệp của mình. Mình phải nói trong vòng 10' về quá trình thực tập, mình đã học được gì, và đề tài mình chọn. để nói trong vòng 10' mình phải rehearse trước đó. Vấn đề là mình là chronic procrastinator, nên dù có ý định rehearse nhiều lần, mình chả rehearse gì, và trước khi vào thuyết trình tâm lý mình cực kỳ bấn loạn because I was unprepared. Lúc đó mình đã đến sớm, nói chuyện với bạn thân mình, xong quyết định là kemeno và lên thuyết trình thì cứ phọt ra thoy, vì mình cũng khá quen với việc mình làm trên chỗ thực tập. Kết quả là trơn tru, trả lời được câu hỏi của thầy, và đạt điểm A. Mình nhớ lại experience này và tự nhủ với bản thân, là I did it once, i'm gonna do it again. I slayed it once, and i'm gonna do it again. Và repeat it until you believe it. (bản chế từ câu Fake it til you make it.)
Áp dụng luật hấp dẫn. Hãy tưởng tượng bạn đạt được target. Ngày bạn nhận được điểm. Bản sẽ cảm thấy elated/proud như thế nào? Bạn sẽ làm gì? Bạn ở đâu và khoe với ai? Mẹ bạn sẽ nói gì? Thầy bạn sẽ nói gì? Buổi đó là sáng hay tối,... Khoa học đã chứng minh khi bạn muốn gì và phát ra nguồn năng lượng đó vào vũ trụ, vũ trụ sẽ phát trả lại năng lượng cho bạn. Mình không khuyến khích bạn ảo tưởng chỉ mộng mơ nhưng không làm gì. Đây là lời khuyên cho bạn đã chuẩn bị nhé.
2. Ngày thi
• mua kẹo sinh gum bạn hà nhai cho thơm miệng trong khi chờ. helps calm my nerves
• mặc áo khoác len cho ấm
• lặp lại các hình ảnh ở bước 1 trong đầu.
• bắt chuyện với bạn cùng thi.
• gặp giám khảo nice thì nhìn không nice không nhìn. Nếu hên bạn gặp giám khảo thân thiện, hãy cứ nói chiện bt với họ, như mình nói trên hãy từ tốn educate họ. Ở idp có một Examiner khá rude chấm speaking. Bạn nói không thèm nhìn bạn mà chỉ nhìn tay, đồng hồ, hoặc ngồi đếm lông. Lỡ bạn xui dính ông này thì cách tốt nhất đừng nhìn ổng mà nhìn chỗ khác, giống cái bàn hay cái ghế. Nhìn giám khảo bạn sẽ bị mất bình tĩnh (lose your composure). So keep your cool nhe.
3. Sau ngày thi
Không biết các bạn thế nào chứ ngay sau khi thi mình đã tự dằn vặt và nguyền rủa bản thân. Trong đầu cứ suy nghĩ: thấy bà rồi thúi quắc rồi, trời ơi tại sao mình không dùng từ này, tại sao mình không thêm ý kia. Xong ngồi kế cái quạt nghe nó kêu "tạch tạch tạch tạch", thiết nghĩ chắc tạch cmnr, có điềm rồi trời ơi anh muốn em sống sao.
Lúc này bạn hãy cố gắng xoã và distract suy nghĩ sang hướng khác. Mình đã lên youtube movie coi Inuyasha, đi lễ với má để đổi phong thuỷ. Mặc dù mình không theo đạo, nhưng vào nhà thờ cầu nguyện giúp mình tĩnh tâm hơn.
1 số típ khác:
[Muôn thuở] Hãy thi máy nếu bạn type nhanh hơn viết tay or nếu bạn có thói quen bôi xoá, vì thi máy cho phép chức năng copy paste cut, nên lợi về mặt thời gian lắm luôn.
Có kết quả trong 5 ngày. Mình thi chủ nhật thì thứ 6 tuần kế tiếp có điểm. Nhưng mà khâu báo kết quả thì thứ 7 mới có, bạn nào sốt ruột giống mình thì lên trang https://results.ieltsessentials.com/ để dò thì trong tối ngày thứ 5 có điểm. À nhớ gõ chữ không dấu nha, tại có dấu nó không ra.
And that's it. Hope you guys find something useful for yourself and good luck"
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สำหรับคนที่ยังไม่ได้อ่านเมื่อเช้าครับ :)
น้อง-พี่-ที่รัก:
รักกันไม่ได้แปลว่าจะต้องชอบกันทั้งหมด
(เขียนถึงเนื้อหาบางส่วนในภาพยนตร์)
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ครั้งหนึ่งที่ป๊ากับพี่สาว (ซึ่งผมเรียกว่า แจ้) มีปากเสียงกัน ผมพยายามพูดอะไรบางอย่างให้สองฝ่ายคืนดี หายโกรธ ยกเหตุผลต่างๆ นานา สิ่งที่พี่สาวผมบอกกลับมาก็คือ "แกไม่ต้องยุ่งหรอกน่า เค้าอยู่กันมาเป็นสิบๆ ปีแล้ว เดี๋ยวมันจางลงก็กลับมาคุยกันดีๆ เหมือนเดิม แค่ยังไม่ใช่ตอนนี้" และคำที่ผมจำได้แม่น "ไม่ต้องทำให้เป็นเรื่องใหญ่ คนในบ้านทะเลาะกันมันเป็นเรื่องปกติ"
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เมื่อวานได้ดู "น้อง-พี่-ที่รัก" โดยมิได้คาดหวังว่าหนังจะเน้นความสัมพันธ์ของพี่ชาย-น้องสาวขนาดนี้ แต่ยิ่งนั่งดูไปมากเท่าไรก็ยิ่งคิดถึงตัวเองและพี่สาวมากขึ้นเท่านั้น
ถามว่าหนังสนุกไหม ตอบว่า-มาก มีมุกให้หัวเราะเกลื่อนกลาดไปทั้งเรื่อง มุกส่วนใหญ่น่ารัก โดน และไม่กริบ น่าจะเพราะการแสดงที่แสนจะพลิ้วของซันนี่และญาญ่า โดยเฉพาะซันนี่ที่เล่นแบบลืมไปเลยว่าตัวเองหล่อ จากสเต็ปของฮิวจ์ แกรนท์ เรื่องนี้เขาได้ข้ามไปสู่สเต็ปของจิม แคร์รีย์เป็นที่เรียบร้อย แต่นั่นแหละ-หนังเรื่องนี้มีมากกว่าความสนุก และอยากชวนไปดูกันเยอะๆ ครับ
ที่คิดถึงตัวเองกับพี่สาวเพราะหนังแสดงให้เห็นถึง "ความต่าง" ระหว่างสองคนนี้แบบสุดขั้ว พี่ชายก็ไม่เอาไหนได้แบบสุดๆ ไร้ระเบียบ เละเทะ เรื่อยเจื้อย เอาตัวรอดด้วยความกะล่อนไปวันๆ ตรงข้ามกับน้องสาวที่เป๊ะ เรียนเก่ง การงานดี กีฬาเลิศ ชีวิตสองคนนี้เหมือนฟ้ากับเหว
ผมกับพี่สาวไม่ได้ต่างกันขนาดนี้ แต่ก็มีส่วนคล้าย ผมค่อนไปทางไร้ระเบียบ รักอิสระ ขณะที่พี่สาวเรียนเก่ง มีระเบียบกับชีวิต ซึ่งผมคิดว่าพี่น้องส่วนใหญ่มักจะมี "ความต่าง" ในแบบของตน
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มีคำพูดว่า "เพื่อนคือญาติที่เราเลือกได้เอง" กลับกันคือ "พี่น้องคือเพื่อนที่เราไม่ได้เลือก และเลือกไม่ได้" เกิดมาก็มีไอ้คนคนนี้อยู่ร่วมบ้านกับเราแล้ว ไม่ว่าจะเป็นยังไงเราก็ต้องใช้ชีวิตกับมันไปอีกหลายปี เผลอๆ ก็อาจจะทั้งชีวิต
เปลี่ยนคนก็ไม่ได้ เลิกคบหากันก็ไม่ได้
เชื่อเหลือเกินว่าบ่อยครั้งที่พี่หรือน้องจะคิดในใจว่า "ถ้ากูเปลี่ยนพี่น้องเป็นคนนั้นคนนี้ได้คงดี" แต่ประเด็นคือ-มึงเปลี่ยนไม่ได้ไงล่ะ
"พี่-น้อง" จึงเป็นความสัมพันธ์ประหลาด ไม่ได้เลือกคบกัน แต่ต้องทนกันไป ไม่ได้ชอบกันแต่ต้องอยู่กันไปแบบทู่ซี้ แล้วไอ้ความอยู่ด้วยกันนานนี่เองแหละที่สร้าง "ความผูกพัน" ขึ้นมา กระทั่งกลายเป็นความสัมพันธ์รสปะแล้ม คือ "ไม่ได้ชอบมึง แต่รักมึงนะ"
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ในครอบครัวที่พี่หรือน้องคนใดคนหนึ่งมีบุคลิกที่ชัดเจน สุดโต่งไปทางใดทางหนึ่ง อีกคนจะกลายเป็นด้านตรงข้ามกับคนนั้นไปเลย
พี่-น้องคือกระจกกลับด้านของกันและกัน (ส่วนหนึ่งเป็นเช่นนั้น)
ความที่อยู่ด้วยกันมานาน พี่น้องเป็นความสัมพันธ์ที่ "เปรียบเทียบ" กันโดยไม่ตั้งใจ แม้ปฏิเสธแต่ก็อดไม่ได้หรอกที่จะเปรียบเทียบ บางทีการเปรียบเทียบนี้อยู่ลึกจนเราไม่รู้ตัว แต่มันมีอิทธิพลต่อ "ความเป็นเรา" มหาศาล
หากพี่เป็นเด็กเรียน ตอนแรกน้องจะพยายามฮึดสู้ แต่ถ้าทำได้ไม่ดี น้องจะเฉไปเอาดีทางอื่นทันที เช่น กลายเป็นคนบ้ากีฬา บ้าศิลปะ เล่นเกม หรืออะไรสักอย่างที่ไม่เกี่ยวกับการเรียนในใบเกรด
หากพี่เจ้าระเบียบมากๆ น้องจะดื้อด้าน แหกกฎ หากน้องขยัน พี่อาจทำตัวกลับกันคือนั่งๆ นอนๆ สบายๆ หากน้องไปทางบุคลิกดี สำรวมเรียบร้อย พี่อาจหนีไปทางตลกโปกฮา และอื่นๆ อีกมากมาย ลองมองพี่น้องรอบตัวก็จะเห็น "กระจกกลับด้าน" เช่นนี้จำนวนไม่น้อย
เราต่างมีอิทธิพลต่อกันและกัน
พูดอีกอย่างคือ "เราต่างสร้างตัวตนของอีกคนขึ้นมา"
ซึ่งบ่อยครั้งไม่ได้สร้างให้อีกคนเหมือนเรา แต่กลับสร้างให้อีกคนแตกต่างจากเรา เพราะเขาต้องการ "หนี" ไปอีกทาง ไม่ให้ซ้ำทางพี่ ไม่ให้ทับทางน้อง
พี่-น้องจึงเป็นโจทย์แรกๆ ของชีวิตที่เราต้องเจอ โจทย์ที่ว่าเราจะ "เอาดี" แบบไหนบนเส้นทางตัวเอง หากสู้กับอีกคนหนึ่งบนทางเส้นนั้นไม่ได้ ยังเหลือทางไหนให้ไปอีก แล้วการหาทางออกเช่นนี้ซ้ำแล้วซ้ำเล่านี่เองที่หล่อหลอม "ตัวตน" ของเราขึ้นมาให้เป็นแบบที่เราเป็นตอนโตขึ้น
และการกลับด้านเช่นนี้เองที่ค่อยๆ สร้างความเป็น "คู่ตรงข้าม" ขึ้นมาในตัวเราสองคน ค่อยๆ ถ่างเราห่างจากกัน ค่อยๆ ทำให้เรามีโลกคนละใบ และเป็นไปได้ว่า--ค่อยๆ ทำให้เราเข้าใจกันและกันน้อยลงเรื่อยๆ
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มองไปที่พี่ เราจึงเห็นว่าเขาอยู่บนโลกอีกใบหนึ่ง เราเป็นมนุษย์คนละดาวที่ถูกเสก (หรือสาบ) ให้มาอยู่ในบ้านหลังเดียวกัน
โจทย์ที่สองที่คนมีพี่น้องค่อยๆ เรียนรู้ตั้งแต่ตอนเป็นวัยรุ่นไปจนถึงเป็นผู้ใหญ่ก็คือ แล้วเราจะอยู่ร่วมกับ "มนุษย์คนละดาว" อย่างไรให้มีความสุข การจะได้มาซึ่งคำตอบของโจทย์นี้ บางคนใช้เวลาทั้งชีวิต
ราวกับว่าเรามีพี่มีน้องที่ต่างกันก็เพื่อให้เราได้เรียนรู้ที่จะอยู่ร่วมกับคนที่แตกต่าง (มากน้อยก็ว่ากันไป) หนีไปไหนไม่ได้ ตัวอาจแยกจากกันบางเวลา แต่หัวใจมันผูกกันไปแล้ว
ไม่ชอบมัน แต่รักมัน
นี่คือแบบฝึกหัดความสัมพันธ์ในแบบที่ "คู่รัก" มอบให้ไม่ได้ เพราะความสัมพันธ์แบบคู่รักนั้นพร้อมจะ "บอกเลิก" กันได้เมื่อถึงจุดที่ทนไม่ไหว แต่พี่น้องจะไม่ยอมให้ความสัมพันธ์ไปถึงจุดนั้น เพราะเราต่างรู้กันว่าเราไม่มีวันเลิกเป็นพี่เป็นน้องกัน หรือหากต้องเลิกเป็นจริงๆ มันคงเป็นเรื่องที่น่าเศร้าที่สุดเรื่องหนึ่งในชีวิต เป็นแผลเป็นที่เหลือบไปเห็นทีไรก็เจ็บแปลบขึ้นมาทุกครั้ง
เราจึงประคับประคอง "ความต่าง" ด้วยทุกวิถีทางที่คิดออก
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6
เช่นนี้แล้ว การเป็นพี่น้องจึงไม่ใช่ความสนุกสวยงามแบบภาพฝัน ซึ่งหนังเรื่องนี้ก็ดีเหลือเกินที่ไม่ตอกย้ำภาพฝันนั้น หากมันคือการ "ทำงาน" แบบหนึ่ง เป็นการทำงานทางด้านจิตใจที่จะยอมรับและยอมรักคนที่แตกต่างจากเราได้ด้วยหัวใจ มิใช่ด้วยการตัดสินพิพากษาเขาด้วยมาตรฐานส่วนตัว
เราจะรักพี่หรือน้องเราได้ก็ต่อเมื่อเราไป "ยืนในรองเท้าของเขา" สวมรองเท้าเขา มองชีวิตจากมุมของเขา เงื่อนไขของเขา ประสบการณ์ที่หล่อหลอมมาของเขา แล้วจึงจะเข้าใจว่าทำไมเขาเป็นแบบนั้น ทำไมเขาคิดเช่นนั้น แล้วเราอาจต้องประหลาดใจด้วยซ้ำว่า ที่เขาเป็นแบบนั้น ส่วนหนึ่งก็เพราะเราเป็นแบบนี้
ความเข้าใจจะเกิดขึ้นเมื่อหมั่นสลับรองเท้ากันใส่ หมั่นแลกจุดยืนของกันและกัน แล้วเราจะไม่ตัดสินการกระทำของพี่หรือน้องด้วยจุดยืนของเราฝ่ายเดียว (เหมือนที่ "พี่ชัช" ในเรื่องตัดสินการช่วยเหลือของน้องสาวด้วยมุมมองของตัวเองในวันแต่งงาน)
พี่น้องเปิดโอกาสให้เรา "แลกรองเท้า" กันบ่อยกว่าความสัมพันธ์แบบอื่น ที่พร้อมจะให้อภัยน้อยกว่า
หลายครั้งผมคิดว่า ของขวัญมีค่าที่สุดที่พี่น้องจะมอบให้แก่กันไม่ใช่ข้าวของเลอเลิศอันใดเลย หากคือการให้อภัยกันด้วยหัวใจที่ไม่ติดค้าง อ้าแขนออกแล้วบอกว่า "ฉันโอเคกับความเป็นแก" แม้ในใจเราอาจอยากให้เขาเปลี่ยนแปลงไปในทางที่เราคิดว่าน่าจะดีกว่าที่เป็นอยู่ แต่นั่นอาจเป็นเพียงการตัดสินจากมาตรฐานส่วนตัวก็เป็นได้ การโอบกอดในสิ่งที่เขาเป็นนั้นอาจมีค่ามากกว่าการพยายามหยิบยื่นสิ่งที่ (เราคิดว่า) ดีให้แก่เขาด้วยซ้ำไป
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7
ผมชอบที่หนังไม่ได้จบที่การเปลี่ยนแปลง "ตัวตน" ของพี่หรือน้อง ทั้งสองยังเป็นแบบที่ตัวเองเป็น คนเราไม่ได้เปลี่ยนกันง่ายๆ
พี่น้องในเรื่องไม่ได้เปลี่ยน "ตัวตน" หากเข้าใจมากขึ้นว่าเราควรเป็นพี่น้องกันด้วยความรู้สึกแบบไหน
เปลี่ยนจากการแบกรับน้ำหนักของการเปรียบเทียบ จับจ้องแต่ความต่าง ก่นด่าในสิ่งที่อีกฝ่ายเป็น ให้กลายเป็นความปรารถนาดีต่อกัน
ใช่, ปรารถนาดีต่อกัน--เราอาจมีกันและกันเพื่อเรียนรู้สิ่งนี้
เราสามารถปรารถนาดีต่อกันได้โดยไม่ต้องถูกใจอีกฝ่ายไปเสียทุกเรื่อง และถ้าเราปรารถนาดีต่อเขา อยากเห็นเขามีความสุข เราอาจต้องยอมบางอย่าง เราอาจไม่จำเป็นต้องพยายามเปลี่ยนแปลงเขา เราเพียงดำเนินชีวิตข้างกันด้วยหัวใจที่เปี่ยมความคาดหวังให้อีกคนหนึ่งมีความสุขที่สุด
นี่คือบทเรียนเรื่อง "ความปรารถนาดีอย่างถูกวิธี" ที่พี่น้องสอนเรา
สิ่งที่พี่ชัชพูดกับหลาน (ลูกชายของน้องสาว) ในตอนท้ายเรื่องว่า "เป็นพี่แล้วนะ รักน้องให้มากๆ นะ" นั้นมีความหมายลึกซึ้งเมื่อตัวเขาเองได้ผ่านรอยปริแยกแห่งความสัมพันธ์ของพี่น้องมาแล้ว
"รักน้อง" นั้นแน่นอนอยู่แล้ว แต่ "รักยังไง" ต่างหากที่เราต้องใช้เวลาเนิ่นนานกว่าจะเรียนรู้
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8
หลังจากนั้นไม่กี่วัน พี่สาวก็ซื้อกับข้าวอร่อยๆ มาฝากป๊า แล้วทั้งครอบครัวก็นั่งล้อมวงกินข้าวพูดคุยกันตามปกติ
บ้านเรากลับมาเป็นปกติอีกครั้ง แต่จะว่าไปก็น่าถามถึงความหมายของคำว่า "ปกติ" มันอาจเป็นแบบที่พี่สาวหรือแจ้ของผมบอกไว้ก็เป็นได้ว่า การทะเลาะกันก็เป็นเรื่องปกติอย่างหนึ่งของคนในบ้าน
เราอาจทะเลาะกันเพื่อเรียนรู้วิธีที่จะอยู่ด้วยกัน ให้เราค่อยๆ สอบผ่านวิชา "ความปรารถนาดีอย่างถูกวิธี" ไปทีละขั้น เหมือนกันกับความสัมพันธ์ระหว่างผมกับพี่สาว ทุกวันนี้เราก็ยังเป็นมนุษย์คนละดาวซึ่งถูกเสก/สาบให้มาอยู่ในบ้านหลังเดียวกัน ไม่ได้ลงรอยไปเสียทั้งหมด แต่ยืนยันได้ว่าเรารักกันเสมอ
นี่คือสิ่งที่พี่สาวคนละดาวสอนผมโดยที่เธอไม่ได้พูด แต่ความสัมพันธ์บนความต่างอันยาวนานบอกใบ้ความลับของชีวิตบางอย่างกับผมว่า "การที่เราจะรักใครสักคน เราไม่จำเป็นต้องชอบทั้งหมดที่เขาเป็น"
ซึ่งความลับนี้อาจไม่ได้ใช้ได้เฉพาะกับ "พี่-น้อง" เท่านั้น
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9
ผมกับพี่เคยมีช่วงเวลาที่เราห่างจากกันและหยุดพูดคุยกันไป แต่แล้ววันหนึ่งเราก็กลับมาคุยกันอีกครั้ง
ความสัมพันธ์ของพี่น้องบางคู่ไม่หวานหอมหรอกครับ ใครที่มีความสัมพันธ์ราบเรียบกับพี่น้องก็นับว่าโชคดี แต่ผมเองก็คิดว่าตัวเองโชคดีอีกแบบหนึ่ง
ผมได้รู้จักความรักที่มีรสขม และผมก็เชื่อว่าพี่สาวของผมก็ได้ลิ้มรสนั้นจากความรักระหว่างเราเช่นกัน
ถ้าต่างกันขนาดนี้แล้วเรายังรักกันได้ ถึงวันหนึ่งบทเรียนนี้น่าจะแผ่ขยายพื้นที่หัวใจให้เรารักคนที่แตกต่างที่ต้องพบเจอในชีวิตได้อีกมากมายนัก
นี่อาจเป็นเหตุผลที่เราถูกเสกให้อยู่ในบ้านหลังเดียวกันมาตั้งแต่เด็ก
ผมรู้ดีว่าพี่รักผม และผมก็รักพี่ เราไม่ได้ชอบทั้งหมดที่อีกคนเป็น แต่เราค่อยๆ เรียนรู้ที่จะยอมรับในสิ่งที่เราไม่ชอบนั้น
ผมอยากชวนพี่ไปดูหนังเรื่องนี้ แต่ก็รู้ดีว่ามันคงจะดูแปลกๆ ยังไงก็เถอะ ผมเชื่อว่าถ้าพี่ได้ดูเค้าจะคิดถึงผม ฉากที่พี่น้องกอดกันตอนท้ายเรื่องคงแทนความรู้สึกระหว่างเราได้ดี
ระยะห่างระหว่างเรานั้นห่างกันมาก ขณะเดียวกันก็ใกล้ชิดกันมาก
จะมีความสัมพันธ์แบบไหนสอนเราได้เช่นนี้อีก
อย่าเชื่อว่าความรักจะมีแต่รสหวาน และอย่าเชื่อว่าความรักที่ไม่หวานนั้นไม่สวยงาม
มันสวยงามอีกแบบหนึ่ง
ก็เหมือนพี่หรือน้องของเรานั่นแหละ-เขาสวยงามในแบบเขา
และสิ่งที่เราควรทำที่สุดคือโอบกอดความสวยงามนั้น
#น้องพี่ที่รัก
#BrotherOfTheYear
Sister-Brother-Baby:
Love each other doesn't mean we have to like each other all.
(write to some content in the film)
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One time dad and sister (which I call jae) got into an argument. I tried to say something to two sides. Good night. I'm angry. All the reason. What my sister said back is " you don't have to mess with me. They live together. For decades, it will fade. We will come back to talk well as usual. Just not now " and the words I remember " no need to make a big deal. People in the house fight is normal "
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2
Yesterday, I watched "Brother-Brother-darling" without expecting the movie to focus on brother-sister relationship like this. But the more I sit and watch, the more I think about myself and my sister.
If you ask if the movie is fun. I say - there are jokes to laugh at. Most of them are cute and not grip. It should be because of sunny and yaya, especially sunny playing forgetful. Let's say he's handsome from this hugh grant step. He has already crossed to Jim Carrie's steps, but that's it - this movie is more than fun and I want to invite you to watch a lot.
I miss myself and my sister because the movie shows the difference " between these two extreme. My brother can't want to go anywhere. No mess. Keep going to survive with the day. The perfect sister. Good at studying, good job. Great Sports. These two lives are like sky and abyss.
Me and my sister are not this different, but there is a similar part of me. I am quite unorganized, free love while my sister is good at studying, organized with life, which I think most brothers always have "different" in their own way
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3
There is a word that "friends are relatives that we can choose they are" brothers are friends that we didn't choose and can't choose I was born, there is this person in our house with us. No matter what, we have to live with it. Many more years, maybe my whole life.
I can't change people. I can't stop being in relationship.
I believe that I often think in my heart, "if I could change this person, it would be good" but the point is - you can't change.
" Brother-sister " is a strange relationship. We don't choose to be together, but we have to endure each other. We don't like each other, but we have to live together for a long time that created " Bond " until it becomes a relationship. And it's " I don't like you but I love you
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4
In a family where one brother or brother has a super clear personality. The other will become the opposite side of that person.
Brother-sister is a mirror back to each other's side (part of them)
Being together for a long time. Brothers is a relationship that " Compare " unintentionally. Even in denial, we can't help but compare. Sometimes this comparison is so deep that we don't realize, but it influences " US "
If you were a student, at first, you would try to fight. But if you didn't do well, you would go to get good things right away, such as becoming crazy, Sports, crazy, art, game or something that is not about studying in grade card.
If your brother is very organized, you will be stubborn and break the rules. If you are diligent, you may act back. Sit and sleep comfortably. If you go to a good personality, you may run away from the funny way. Funny way, and more. Let's see brothers around. I will see a few "mirrors" like this.
We all influence each other.
Another saying is " we all create one another's identity
I often don't create another person like us, but it makes another person different from us because he wants to "run away" the other way, not to repeat the way. I won't let you over the way.
Brother-sister is the first problem of our life that we have to find. What kind of "we will" do on our path. If we can't fight with another person on the road, there is still any way to go. Finding a solution like this over and over again. The handsome one who we are " to be the way we were when we were growing up.
And this kind of turning back that slowly creates the "opposite couple" in the two of us slowly spread us apart. Slowly makes us a different world and it's possible that -- slowly makes us understand each other less.
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5
Look at my brother, I see that he is on another planet. We are human beings who are made (or) to be in the same house.
The second problem that people have siblings slowly learn from teenagers to mature. How can we live with "different stars" to be happy to get the answer to this problem. Some people spend their whole life.
As if we have different brothers, so that we can learn to live with different people (no matter how much we say). We can't go anywhere. We may be separated for some time, but our hearts are tied.
Don't like it but love it
This is the kind of relationship training that " couples " can't give because couples are ready to " break up " when it comes to the point where they can't stand it, but brothers won't let the relationship reach that point because we both know that we will never stop being brother. Sister or if you have to stop being, it would be the saddest thing in life. It's a scar that I see it, it hurts every time.
So we support "the difference" in every way we can figure out.
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6
Like this, being a sibling is not a fun, beautiful dream. This movie is so good not to remind that dream. If it is to "work" a mental work to accept and love someone who is different from us with the heart. Not by judgement, judge him by personal standards.
We can only love my brother or brother when we go to "Stand in his shoes" wearing shoes. He looks at life from his angle. His condition. His handsome experience, then you will understand why he is like that. Why he thinks so. We may even be surprised that he is because we are.
Understanding will happen when switching shoes to exchange each other's stand and we will not judge the actions of brother or brother by one side. (like "brother chor cuddle hours" in judging sister's help with their own perspective in Wedding day)
Brothers open the opportunity for us to "exchange shoes" more often than other relationships that are less ready to forgive.
Many times, I think that the most valuable gift that brothers will give to each other, not a great thing. If it is to forgive each other with a heart that doesn't owe each other with open arms and say "I'm okay with you" even in our hearts, we may want him to change. In a way we think it's better than we are, but that may be just judging by personal standards. Embracing who he is is more valuable than trying to give him what (we think) is good.
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7
I like that the movie doesn't end at changing "who" of both of you or sisters. It's still the way they are. People don't change easily.
Brothers and sisters don't change "who they are" if you understand what kind of feelings we should be brothers.
Change from carrying the weight of comparison, but the difference, cursing what the other is to be best wishes for each other.
Yes, wish for each other -- we may have each other to learn this
We can wish to be good to each other without liking the other. and if we wish to be good for him happy, we may have to give up something. We may not have to try to change him. We just live beside each other with a heart. Expectation for one another to be the happiest
This is the lesson about "best wishes" that brothers teach us.
What brother chor cuddle said to the grandchild (sister's son) at the end, "I am a brother now. I love you very much" is a deep meaning when he has passed the cremation of brothers relationship.
" love you " is for sure, but " how to love " is what we take a long time to learn.
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8
After a few days, my sister bought some delicious rice for dad. Then the whole family sat around the band, eating and talking as usual.
Our house is back to normal again, but it's nice to ask about the meaning of " normal it may be the way my sister or jae said. Fighting is normal for people in the house.
We may fight to learn how to be together. Let us gradually pass the "best wishes" class. Same step by step with the relationship between me and my sister. Nowadays we are still human beings who are made / scalmed / scalmed in the same house. Not all the marks, but I can confirm that we always love each other.
This is what a different star sister taught me without saying, but a long relationship. Hints some secrets of life to me, "to love someone, we don't have to like all that they are"
This secret may not only be used with "Brother-sister"
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9
My brother and I used to have a time when we were apart and stopped talking to each other. But then one day we came back to talk again.
Some brothers relationship is not sweet and fragrant. Anyone who has a smooth relationship with brothers is lucky. But I think I am lucky.
I have known bitter love, and I believe my sister also tasted it from our love.
If it's this different, we can still love each other until one day. This lesson should spread our heart space to love many different people who have to meet in life.
Maybe this is why we were conjured in the same house since we were young.
I know that you love me, and I love you. I don't like all that the other person is, but we slowly learn to accept what we don't like.
I want to invite you to watch this movie, but I know that it will look strange. I believe that if you watch it, they will miss me. The scene where brothers hug each other at the end, the story will replace our feelings.
The distance between us is so far apart, meanwhile, very close.
What kind of relationship can teach us like this?
Don't believe that love is only sweet and don't believe that love is not sweet.
It's beautiful in another way.
Just like our brother or brother - he is beautiful in his way.
And all we should do is embrace that beauty
#น้องพี่ที่รัก
#BrotherOfTheYearTranslated
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น้อง-พี่-ที่รัก:
รักกันไม่ได้แปลว่าจะต้องชอบกันทั้งหมด
(เขียนถึงเนื้อหาบางส่วนในภาพยนตร์)
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Continue ReadingSister-Brother-Baby:
Love each other doesn't mean we have to like each other all.
(write to some content in the film)
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1
One time dad and sister (which I call jae) got into an argument. I tried to say something to two sides. Good night. I'm angry. All the reason. What my sister said back is " you don't have to mess with me. They live together. For decades, it will fade. We will come back to talk well as usual. Just not now " and the words I remember " no need to make a big deal. People in the house fight is normal "
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2
Yesterday, I watched "Brother-Brother-darling" without expecting the movie to focus on brother-sister relationship like this. But the more I sit and watch, the more I think about myself and my sister.
If you ask if the movie is fun. I say - there are jokes to laugh at. Most of them are cute and not grip. It should be because of sunny and yaya, especially sunny playing forgetful. Let's say he's handsome from this hugh grant step. He has already crossed to Jim Carrie's steps, but that's it - this movie is more than fun and I want to invite you to watch a lot.
I miss myself and my sister because the movie shows the difference " between these two extreme. My brother can't want to go anywhere. No mess. Keep going to survive with the day. The perfect sister. Good at studying, good job. Great Sports. These two lives are like sky and abyss.
Me and my sister are not this different, but there is a similar part of me. I am quite unorganized, free love while my sister is good at studying, organized with life, which I think most brothers always have "different" in their own way
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There is a word that "friends are relatives that we can choose they are" brothers are friends that we didn't choose and can't choose I was born, there is this person in our house with us. No matter what, we have to live with it. Many more years, maybe my whole life.
I can't change people. I can't stop being in relationship.
I believe that I often think in my heart, "if I could change this person, it would be good" but the point is - you can't change.
" Brother-sister " is a strange relationship. We don't choose to be together, but we have to endure each other. We don't like each other, but we have to live together for a long time that created " Bond " until it becomes a relationship. And it's " I don't like you but I love you
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In a family where one brother or brother has a super clear personality. The other will become the opposite side of that person.
Brother-sister is a mirror back to each other's side (part of them)
Being together for a long time. Brothers is a relationship that " Compare " unintentionally. Even in denial, we can't help but compare. Sometimes this comparison is so deep that we don't realize, but it influences " US "
If you were a student, at first, you would try to fight. But if you didn't do well, you would go to get good things right away, such as becoming crazy, Sports, crazy, art, game or something that is not about studying in grade card.
If your brother is very organized, you will be stubborn and break the rules. If you are diligent, you may act back. Sit and sleep comfortably. If you go to a good personality, you may run away from the funny way. Funny way, and more. Let's see brothers around. I will see a few "mirrors" like this.
We all influence each other.
Another saying is " we all create one another's identity
I often don't create another person like us, but it makes another person different from us because he wants to "run away" the other way, not to repeat the way. I won't let you over the way.
Brother-sister is the first problem of our life that we have to find. What kind of "we will" do on our path. If we can't fight with another person on the road, there is still any way to go. Finding a solution like this over and over again. The handsome one who we are " to be the way we were when we were growing up.
And this kind of turning back that slowly creates the "opposite couple" in the two of us slowly spread us apart. Slowly makes us a different world and it's possible that -- slowly makes us understand each other less.
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Look at my brother, I see that he is on another planet. We are human beings who are made (or) to be in the same house.
The second problem that people have siblings slowly learn from teenagers to mature. How can we live with "different stars" to be happy to get the answer to this problem. Some people spend their whole life.
As if we have different brothers, so that we can learn to live with different people (no matter how much we say). We can't go anywhere. We may be separated for some time, but our hearts are tied.
Don't like it but love it
This is the kind of relationship training that " couples " can't give because couples are ready to " break up " when it comes to the point where they can't stand it, but brothers won't let the relationship reach that point because we both know that we will never stop being brother. Sister or if you have to stop being, it would be the saddest thing in life. It's a scar that I see it, it hurts every time.
So we support "the difference" in every way we can figure out.
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Like this, being a sibling is not a fun, beautiful dream. This movie is so good not to remind that dream. If it is to "work" a mental work to accept and love someone who is different from us with the heart. Not by judgement, judge him by personal standards.
We can only love my brother or brother when we go to "Stand in his shoes" wearing shoes. He looks at life from his angle. His condition. His handsome experience, then you will understand why he is like that. Why he thinks so. We may even be surprised that he is because we are.
Understanding will happen when switching shoes to exchange each other's stand and we will not judge the actions of brother or brother by one side. (like "brother chor cuddle hours" in judging sister's help with their own perspective in Wedding day)
Brothers open the opportunity for us to "exchange shoes" more often than other relationships that are less ready to forgive.
Many times, I think that the most valuable gift that brothers will give to each other, not a great thing. If it is to forgive each other with a heart that doesn't owe each other with open arms and say "I'm okay with you" even in our hearts, we may want him to change. In a way we think it's better than we are, but that may be just judging by personal standards. Embracing who he is is more valuable than trying to give him what (we think) is good.
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I like that the movie doesn't end at changing "who" of both of you or sisters. It's still the way they are. People don't change easily.
Brothers and sisters don't change "who they are" if you understand what kind of feelings we should be brothers.
Change from carrying the weight of comparison, but the difference, cursing what the other is to be best wishes for each other.
Yes, wish for each other -- we may have each other to learn this
We can wish to be good to each other without liking the other. and if we wish to be good for him happy, we may have to give up something. We may not have to try to change him. We just live beside each other with a heart. Expectation for one another to be the happiest
This is the lesson about "best wishes" that brothers teach us.
What brother chor cuddle said to the grandchild (sister's son) at the end, "I am a brother now. I love you very much" is a deep meaning when he has passed the cremation of brothers relationship.
" love you " is for sure, but " how to love " is what we take a long time to learn.
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After a few days, my sister bought some delicious rice for dad. Then the whole family sat around the band, eating and talking as usual.
Our house is back to normal again, but it's nice to ask about the meaning of " normal it may be the way my sister or jae said. Fighting is normal for people in the house.
We may fight to learn how to be together. Let us gradually pass the "best wishes" class. Same step by step with the relationship between me and my sister. Nowadays we are still human beings who are made / scalmed / scalmed in the same house. Not all the marks, but I can confirm that we always love each other.
This is what a different star sister taught me without saying, but a long relationship. Hints some secrets of life to me, "to love someone, we don't have to like all that they are"
This secret may not only be used with "Brother-sister"
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My brother and I used to have a time when we were apart and stopped talking to each other. But then one day we came back to talk again.
Some brothers relationship is not sweet and fragrant. Anyone who has a smooth relationship with brothers is lucky. But I think I am lucky.
I have known bitter love, and I believe my sister also tasted it from our love.
If it's this different, we can still love each other until one day. This lesson should spread our heart space to love many different people who have to meet in life.
Maybe this is why we were conjured in the same house since we were young.
I know that you love me, and I love you. I don't like all that the other person is, but we slowly learn to accept what we don't like.
I want to invite you to watch this movie, but I know that it will look strange. I believe that if you watch it, they will miss me. The scene where brothers hug each other at the end, the story will replace our feelings.
The distance between us is so far apart, meanwhile, very close.
What kind of relationship can teach us like this?
Don't believe that love is only sweet and don't believe that love is not sweet.
It's beautiful in another way.
Just like our brother or brother - he is beautiful in his way.
And all we should do is embrace that beauty
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Dan has studied with legendary martial artist such as Bruce Lee’s original student Ted Wong (http://tedwongjkd.net) and Joe Lewis “The Worlds Greatest Fighter” (http://joelewisassociation.com), making him a second generation student of Bruce Lee - in Bruce Lee's authentic art of Jeet Kune Do (JKD). He's also a third generation student of Ip Man (Wing Chun Kung Fu).
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For Dan, martial arts training permeates every area of life. It’s not a hobby, it’s a way of life, and it influences how he does business.
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One of Dan Lok’s passions in life is martial arts. Like many young kids, after watching a Bruce Lee movie, it changed his life forever. At 17 years old, Dan started training in martial arts seriously because he was being bullied in school. It wasn’t long for Dan to learn the techniques he needed, and gain the confidence necessary to defend himself.
Dan has studied with legendary martial artist such as Bruce Lee’s original student Ted Wong (http://tedwongjkd.net) and Joe Lewis “The Worlds Greatest Fighter” (http://joelewisassociation.com), making him a second generation student of Bruce Lee - in Bruce Lee's authentic art of Jeet Kune Do (JKD). He's also a third generation student of Ip Man (Wing Chun Kung Fu).
Dan has also trained with other great instructors like Sifu Adam Chan (https://www.pragmaticmartialarts.com), Canadian lightweight boxing champion Tony "Fire Kid" Pep (https://www.facebook.com/pepboxing), and Octavio Quintero (https://www.theartofjkd.com)
For Dan, martial arts training permeates every area of life. It’s not a hobby, it’s a way of life, and it influences how he does business.
Martial arts gave him the confidence, focus, and patience to push through these obstacles and to keep fighting when he felt like giving up.
IMPORTANT NOTE: Dan is NOT a full-time martial artist and he doesn't even claim to be that good of a fighter.
He's simply a successful businessman who enjoys the art and philosophy of Bruce Lee, just like you.
He doesn't have any online martial art videos, seminars or expensive "private training" to sell you. Quite frankly, he doesn't need the money.
He simply wants to share his passion for the art of JKD (his own version of Jeet Kune Do) through his YouTube channel.
Check out the other Jeet Kune Do (JKD) Fighting Tactics and Training Videos: https://www.youtube.com/playlist?list=PLEmTTOfet46Ocn3bqnUIaAB-cTUzsAXOG
More Wing Chun (Ving Tsun) Techniques in this Playlist: https://www.youtube.com/playlist?list=PLEmTTOfet46PuW-CM4gmmMnebKMq3WFMp
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Check out Sifu Octavio Quintero's YouTube Channel videos here:
https://youtu.be/QGrTzGYc_gs
One of Dan Lok’s passions in life is martial arts. Like many young kids, after watching a Bruce Lee movie, it changed his life forever. At 17 years old, Dan started training in martial arts seriously because he was being bullied in school. It wasn’t long for Dan to learn the techniques he needed, and gain the confidence necessary to defend himself.
Dan has studied with legendary martial artists such as Bruce Lee’s original student Ted Wong (http://tedwongjkd.net) and Joe Lewis “The Worlds Greatest Fighter” (http://joelewisassociation.com), making him a second generation student of Bruce Lee - in Bruce Lee's authentic art of Jeet Kune Do (JKD). He's also a third generation student of Ip Man (Wing Chun Kung Fu).
Dan has also trained with other great instructors like Sifu Adam Chan (https://www.pragmaticmartialarts.com), Canadian lightweight boxing champion Tony "Fire Kid" Pep (https://www.facebook.com/pepboxing), and Octavio Quintero (https://www.theartofjkd.com)
For Dan, martial arts training permeates every area of life. It’s not a hobby, it’s a way of life, and it influences how he does business.
Martial arts gave him the confidence, focus, and patience to push through these obstacles and to keep fighting when he felt like giving up.
IMPORTANT NOTE: Dan is NOT a full-time martial artist and he doesn't even claim to be that good of a fighter.
He's simply a successful businessman who enjoys the art and philosophy of Bruce Lee, just like you.
He doesn't have any online martial art videos, seminars or expensive "private training" to sell you. Quite frankly, he doesn't need the money.
He simply wants to share his passion for the art of JKD (his own version of Jeet Kune Do) through his YouTube channel.
Check out the other Jeet Kune Do (JKD) Fighting Tactics and Training Videos: https://www.youtube.com/playlist?list...
More Wing Chun (Ving Tsun) Techniques in this Playlist: https://www.youtube.com/playlist?list...
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