之前我們討論過體罰帶來的傷害,引來坊間很大迴響。有人說:「我講過道理,氹又氹過,罰又罰過,但小朋友都係唔聽話,可以點?」所以今集跟大家分享實戰方法。
但在討論之前,或許我們應該先想想為何父母會要求子女「聽話」?「聽話」是不是不經思考的絕對服從?每次小朋友表現頑劣,我們除了輕易的給他們貼上「曳」的標籤以外,有沒有想過「為甚麼」?這些負面行為的背後,其實正在傳達甚麼訊息?
參考資料
Kohn, A. (2006). Unconditional Parenting: Moving from Rewards and Punishments to Love and Reason, Atria Books
Dreikurs, R. and Scoltz, V. (1991). Children: The Challenge: The classic work on improving parent-child relations- Intelligent, Humane & Eminently Practical, Plume.
Satir V; Gomori M; Banmen J; Gerber JS (1991). The Satir model: family therapy and beyond. Palo Alto, CA: Science and Behavior Books.
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