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愛情36「題」❤️

讓陌生人迅速相愛的36個問題

Time to fall in love?

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《紐約時報》報導:

曼迪·萊恩·卡特隆(Mandy Len Catron)為「現代愛情」專欄寫了一篇文章《如何快速與陌生人相愛》，她在文中提到心理學家阿瑟·亞倫(Arthur Aron)等人的研究成果：兩個陌生人之間的親密關係或許可以通過彼此詢問一些特別的個人化問題而快速升溫。這36個問題分為三組，一組比一組來得尋根究底。

這個理論的核心是，共同的脆弱能促進親近感。這項研究的作者們稱：「同伴之間發展親密關係的關鍵模式在於持續、逐步升級、相互且個人化的袒露自我。」允許自己和另一個人共享脆弱可能非常困難，下面這個練習能迫使你做到這一點。

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Set I 第一組 ❤️

1. Given the choice of anyone in the world, whom would you want as a dinner guest?

如果可以在世界上所有人中任意選擇，你想邀請誰共進晚餐？

2. Would you like to be famous? In what way?

你想成名嗎？想以什麼方式成名？

3. Before making a telephone call, do you ever rehearse what you are going to say? Why?

打電話之前你會先排練一下要說什麼嗎，為什麼？

4. What would constitute a “perfect” day for you?

對你來說，「完美」的一天是什麼樣的？

5. When did you last sing to yourself? To someone else?

你上次自己唱起歌來是在什麼時候，給別人唱呢？

6. If you were able to live to the age of 90 and retain either the mind or body of a 30-year-old for the last 60 years of your life, which would you want?

如果你能活到90歲，同時可以一直保持30歲時的心智或身體，你會選擇保持哪一種呢，心智還是身體？

7. Do you have a secret hunch about how you will die?

你是否曾經秘密地預感到自己會以怎樣的方式死去？

8. Name three things you and your partner appear to have in common.

說出三件你和你的伴侶看上去相同的特徵。

9. For what in your life do you feel most grateful?

人生中的什麼東西最令你感激？

10. If you could change anything about the way you were raised, what would it be?

如果你能改變被撫養成人過程中的一件事，會是哪一件。

11. Take four minutes and tell your partner your life story in as much detail as possible.

花四分鐘時間，儘可能詳細告訴伴侶你的人生經歷。

12. If you could wake up tomorrow having gained any one quality or ability, what would it be?

如果你明天一覺醒來就能擁有某種才能或能力，你希望那會是什麼能力呢？

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Set II 第二組 ❤️❤️

13. If a crystal ball could tell you the truth about yourself, your life, the future or anything else, what would you want to know?

如果有一個水晶球可以告訴你關於自己、人生，未來乃至任何事情的真相，你會想知道嗎？

14. Is there something that you’ve dreamed of doing for a long time? Why haven’t you done it?

有沒有什麼事是你一直夢想去做而沒有去做的，為什麼沒有做？

15. What is the greatest accomplishment of your life?

你人生中最大的成就是什麼？

16. What do you value most in a friendship?

在一段友誼之中你最珍視的是什麼？

17. What is your most treasured memory?

你最寶貴的記憶是什麼？

18. What is your most terrible memory?

你最糟糕的記憶是什麼？

19. If you knew that in one year you would die suddenly, would you change anything about the way you are now living? Why?

假如你知道自己在一年內就會突然死去，你會改變現在的生活方式嗎？為什麼？

20. What does friendship mean to you?

友誼對於你來說意味着什麼？

21. What roles do love and affection play in your life?

愛與情感在你生活中扮演着什麼樣的角色？

22. Alternate sharing something you consider a positive characteristic of your partner. Share a total of five items.

和你的伴侶輪流說出心目中對方的一個好品質，每人說五條。

23. How close and warm is your family? Do you feel your childhood was happier than most other people’s?

你的家人之間關係是否親密而溫暖，你覺得自己的童年比其他人更快樂嗎？

24. How do you feel about your relationship with your mother?

你和母親之間的關係是怎樣的？

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25. Make three true “we” statements each. For instance, “We are both in this room feeling ... “

每人用「我們」造三個句子，並含有實際情況，比如「我們倆在屋子裡，感覺……」

26. Complete this sentence: “I wish I had someone with whom I could share ... “

補完這個句子：「我希望和某人在一起，分享……」

27. If you were going to become a close friend with your partner, please share what would be important for him or her to know.

如果你想和對方成為親近的朋友，請告訴對方有什麼重要的事情是他或她需要知道的。

28. Tell your partner what you like about them; be very honest this time, saying things that you might not say to someone you’ve just met.

告訴對方你喜歡他或她身上的什麼東西，要非常誠實，說些你不會對萍水之交說的東西。

29. Share with your partner an embarrassing moment in your life.

和對方分享生命中那些尷尬的時刻。

30. When did you last cry in front of another person? By yourself?

你上次在別人面前哭是什麼時候？自己哭呢？

31. Tell your partner something that you like about them already.

告訴對方，你已經喜歡上了他或她身上的什麼品質。

32. What, if anything, is too serious to be joked about?

你覺得什麼東西是嚴肅到不能開玩笑的，假如有的話。

33. If you were to die this evening with no opportunity to communicate with anyone, what would you most regret not having told someone? Why haven’t you told them yet?

如果你今晚就將死去，而且沒有機會同任何人聯絡，你會因為之前沒有對別人說什麼話而感到遺憾，你為什麼到現在都沒有對他們說這些話呢？

34. Your house, containing everything you own, catches fire. After saving your loved ones and pets, you have time to safely make a final dash to save any one item. What would it be? Why?

假設你擁有的全部東西都在你的房子里，現在房子着了火，救出家人和寵物之後，你還有機會安全地衝進去最後一次，取出最後一件東西，你會拿什麼，為什麼？

35. Of all the people in your family, whose death would you find most disturbing? Why?

你的家人中，誰去世了會令你最難過，為什麼？

36. Share a personal problem and ask your partner’s advice on how he or she might handle it. Also, ask your partner to reflect back to you how you seem to be feeling about the problem you have chosen.

說出一件你的個人問題，問對方如果遇到此事要如何解決。另外，也要讓對方如實告訴你，在他或她眼中，你對於這個問題的感受是怎樣的。

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❤️ 看完這些問題後，會想到哪一部愛情片? ❤️

Tag someone who needs these questions~

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Your Body is God’s Temple

““Foods for the belly, and the belly for foods,” but God will bring to nothing both it and them. But the body is not for sexual immorality, but for the Lord; and the Lord for the body. Now God raised up the Lord, and will also raise us up by his power. Don’t you know that your bodies are members of Christ? Shall I then take the members of Christ, and make them members of a prostitute? May it never be! Or don’t you know that he who is joined to a prostitute is one body? For, “The two”, he says, “will become one flesh.” But he who is joined to the Lord is one spirit. Flee sexual immorality! “Every sin that a man does is outside the body,” but he who commits sexual immorality sins against his own body. Or don’t you know that your body is a temple of the Holy Spirit who is in you, whom you have from God? You are not your own, for you were bought with a price. Therefore glorify God in your body and in your spirit, which are God’s.” (1 Corinthians‬ ‭6:13-20‬ ‭WEB‬‬)

I believe that seeing your body as God’s temple will transform the way you treat it.

If God had designed for us to still be worshipping Him in a temple built of gold, wood, and stones, would you go and defile the walls with graffiti, toss lots of junk into it, have your way with prostitutes inside, and let it fall into disrepute? No way, right?

Probably the number one reason why we don’t treat our bodies right is because we are not conscious of it being God’s temple.

We go around daily, thinking that the condition of our body is not that important, and that other things are more urgent.

When we get busy, hydration is neglected, meals are skipped or irregular, exercise is dropped, hygiene is forgotten, sleep is sacrificed, and the body is just sadly abused.

The body is the house of the Holy Spirit, and we ought to treat it right.

If the president (or someone else of a much higher rank that you respect) announces one day that he will be staying at your house, you will surely clean up the house and prepare it nicely right?

Then why are we so casual when God is dwelling in our body, and He has promised to stay forever? Does He not deserve the grandest, most glorious house with the best maintenance?

Thankfully, we have a better way than natural methods to care for God’s temple. If your body is in a bad state, and needs some major renovation, the Holy Spirit can work an awesome transformation by His power. It is a change that everyone can see.

“Younger and Younger: 31 Days of God’s Youth Renewal Promises” was birthed from a rhema word that I received from within. “Younger and younger.” It was a season about learning how to renew my youth by God’s way, and become overall healthier, stronger, and more beautiful.

Since then, many readers have given good feedback, expressing that people around them also started commenting that they look younger, after they applied the truths shared within the book.

Some readers especially love the “Eternal Youth Declarations Audio” that comes as a bonus mp3 file to recap on the youth declarations in the book, and it’s also a good way to have God’s youth renewal promises confessed over you all day long. Soaking yourself in God’s word is always a powerful, life-giving, and beneficial activity.

Check out “Younger and Younger” here: https://bit.ly/younger-and-younger

Scam 101

This year, 2020, it has been a tough and challenging year for all of us because of Covid19 crisis. Each of us is impacted in some ways. We need to understand that we all face the same storm, but we all are not on the same boat.

Some might have a better advantage than the others and some may struggle to survive. Covid19 has led to a dramatic loss of human lives, health, food systems and the world of work worldwide. The economic and social disruption is worrying.

This difficult times has shown us how fragile life is and one of the main things in life that we need to survive, unfortunately, is having money. All of us need money to provide the necessities to live.

During these rough times, many unethical parties are also waiting to take advantage of unsuspecting individuals who also need money. This parties we called scammers. They capitalise on people's hardship and fears to manipulate other vulnerable people.

Be aware that scammers are also sophisticated with their tactics and have many types of schemes and businesses that they disguised to look legitimate and interesting, but their motive is to swindle your hard-earned money and take advantage of your situation. Once they get what they want, they will vanish.

This is crucial, I urge my family, friends and followers to be more vigilant when making business and investments decisions to not fall into their lies and fake promises.

How to detect this unscrupulous parties
❗Always do your research first hand (information is everywhere, check thoroughly) and don't quickly jump into the bandwagon even if everyone around you is doing it
❗Investment with guaranteed profit (this is a red flag - no such thing as guaranteed, if yes, this is a very dangerous business and potentially a fake one)
❗Too good to be true business model and promises (be realistic)
❗Business or investment that lures you to join and give you 'offer of a lifetime or limited time'
❗Huge returns or profits (even better than the financial institutions? - doesn't make sense)
❗Pyramid schemes, based on enrolments/recruit people - people are the product (if they are pushing this agenda, you know you are the product = scam)
❗MLM business that is a cover-up illegal pyramid scheme (they said they are MLM and legal) - please check this difference in their business model
❗Brands that source for brand ambassadors and said everything is free, but have to pay for the shipping fee (which cost a lot) at the end and sometime unreasonable commission schemes (this is becoming more
and more, beware influencers)
❗Macau Scam - impersonate authorities/trusted officials to get a large sum of money (please check this carefully when you get any phone calls)
❗Love Scam - contact you with fake profiles (too good to be true profile), praise, engaged and try to strike a relationship with you, before they commit fraud in the end)
❗Many more - debt collection, settlement, relief, mortgage, imposter, oil scam, apps scam, religious and charity scam, social media and online business scam, grandparents scam, lottery or prize scams, wire or money transfer fraud and more - stay vigilant

Ways to avoid being scammed
✅Always deal with individuals, entities that are registered, licensed or trustworthy (depends on the type of business, check with the relevant authorities/parties) - do your background check
✅Ask questions and request for important information. They shouldn't be easily triggered and emotional
✅Check with relevant authorities before investing or depositing any monies even it is a small amount
✅Don't be pressured or rushed by anyone. Find time to do your research when you want to get yourself into something
✅Be sceptical if there's no proper documentation in writing and if you are not certain with the legality
✅Beware of investments and making money opportunity over the internet. This is their playground
✅Secure your personal information. Don't leak them to untrusted parties
✅Keep copies of all documents or writings when you agree with any parties

I have seen so many individuals and groups of people around me that have been scammed and in businesses that are scamming people.

Let us all exercise extreme caution when being offered something lucrative and being promised heavens on earth. If someone is promising you quick and so much money (rich), no risk, and everything seems perfect/too good to be true, please be careful. Just remember, the faster and easy you get something better, the faster and easy you get something worse.

Report and file a complaint to relevant authorities if you know any scammers or has been a victim of scams.

Protect yourself from being a victim of a scam. It's better to have little or enough money but it belongs to us than having a lot of money that isn't ours, taking from unfortunate people and scamming people for a living. Remember this.

We found the key to make your partners with avoidant attachment styles (aka Nina) cringe and/or cry: Ask them 36 Questions to Fall in Love!

The Thirsty Sisters are back this week to grill each other with uncomfortable questions! But do they really work? Sylvia and Nina put it to the test and ask each other these vulnerable, intimate questions. Will this turn out surprisingly fuzzy or emotionally traumatic? Tune in to find out ❤️

Link to 36 Questions to Fall in Love: http://36questionsinlove.com/

00:00 Intro
01:15 Topic of the Day
02:09 Vulnerable = Fall in Love?
03:20 How we'll be doing the 36 Questions
04:34 These questions lead to marriage?
05:25 The perfect day for us
06:16 How will we die?
06:47 What do we have in common?
07:17 What are we most grateful for?
09:21 What would we change about the way we were raised?
11:05 What ability would we like to gain?
13:30 Would we ask these questions on a date?
15:22 What would we want to know from a crystal ball?
17:13 What we've dreamt of doing for a long time
20:16 What are our greatest accomplishments?
23:25 Nina is dying at this question
24:15 Our most treasured memories
27:34 Diving deep into Nina's unexpected reaction
29:17 Nina is having a mental breakdown
30:15 Our most terrible memories
33:52 How we would live if we were going to die soon
36:07 Nina is dying (figuratively)
37:06 When did we last cry?
40:26 What do we regret not saying to someone?
45:36 Our parent-child relationship struggles
47:00 What we would save in a fire
48:57 Set 1 vs Set 2 vs Set 3?
49:17 Did you fall in love with us?
50:02 Conclusion

Sylvia and Nina are not your typical influencers; they give it to you raw and real! Join them as they quench their never-ending thirst for wisdom, trends, success and men.

They explore hot and pressing issues you never thought you needed to know in this extremely in-depth podcast. Sisters, brothers and everyone in between or beyond; jump in and be thirsty!

*Disclaimers*
The legal age for sex in Singapore is 18. While being comfortable with your bodies is a must, please protect yourselves by using protection ?
https://singaporelegaladvice.com/law-articles/legal-age-for-sex-in-singapore/

Our views in this podcast include only our own experiences as heterosexual women in Singapore, we respect everyone’s views regardless of genders, gender identities and sexual orientations.

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Hey guys,
It seems like it took us forever to edit this vlog. But we hope we are not too late~ First, we would like to thank you guys for all the bday wishes. You guys made our day even more special and warmer ?? We hope that we can continue to celebrate more bdays with you guys ???

We realised we only have 5000-word limitation here so we couldn't answer everyone. Sorry guys~ We'll probably answer them in our other vlogs.

Lots of love,
Jo & Sue

?IG QUESTIONS?
? What kind of app you use to edit your insta stories?
Sue: Inshot app. Cinema 02 filter + grains OR I use SNOW app
Jo: VSCO. M5 filter, M5 +2.8, Exposure +0.4, Contrast +0.5, Sharpen +4.1, White Balance : Temperature -0.9, Tint +1.2, Vignette +8.0, Grain +4.0

? How to you manage alone time?
We both have our own routine & we respect each other space. We actually spend most of our time alone~ Just in the vlog it seems like we are together 24/7

? If all expenses paid and no pain at all, what kind of plastic surgery would you girls do?
Love this question! We do get sponsorship offer for plastic surgery and we have kinda high tolerance for pain but we still rejected the offer =) We don’t think we would change a thing~ It’s not that we are happy with everything that we’re born with just that we think we rather learn to love what we are given. That being said, we are not against plastic surgery either.

? With your current income, do you guys be able to make a living on your own?
We survived. LOL~ It’s not a lot but we love what we do and we’ll continue to work hard.

? What happens if you are over 35 and have not married yet?
Good question~ We don’t think it should be an issue. Married or not, it won't change a thing =)

? Is there any tips or book recommended to start reading?
We all have different book preferences. When people say they are not a reader we always think that they have not found the right book. It’s not you, it’s the book LOL So keep searching and keep reading. Don’t feel bad to leave a book if you don’t like it~

? What if one day you two fall in love with the same guy?
It’s not going to happen~ We both have different taste in guys

? If you were to focus on one thing you can improve on, what would it be?
Sue: I would like to improve my sleeping habit. I need to sleep early.
Jo: For work, I want to improve my Photoshop skill. For personal, I want to overcome my fear of crowds.

? What is something which gives you happiness recently?
Jo: Baking cakes & learning crochet
Sue: Exercising & Baking breads

? Places / Country you guys want to travel when C19 ends or safe to travel again?
Jo: Korea
Sue: Taiwan~ Since we’re learning Mandarin, I think Taiwan is the great to practice my Mandarin. Plus, I like Taiwan.

? What’s your preference in guys?
Jo: I like hardworking guys. And also someone who knows how to enjoy life alone and with people too.
Sue: I like animated guys… I’ll leave it as that. LOL

? What made you start your own business? How to solve it when no customer buy?
We started our first business as a side thing. We just love clothings and we thought selling clothing would be fun. When we closed our clothing business down, opening another business seems like a familiar thing to do~
& how to get more customers? You can pay for ads. Get influencers to promote your business. Get family and friends to spread the news.

? Do you guys inspire each other? Who inspire who the most?
We both have different style so we get inspirations from outside sources ( like on Pinterest, YouTube or Instagram)

? How tall are you guys? Both of you look so tall.
We get that a lot. But we are tiny~ 157cm =)

?What’s the cutest thing someone did for you?
Jo: The cutest thing is when a perfect stranger gave me an extra rose because he saw my then bf only gave me one stalk of rose. lol
Sue: When my mum bought us balloons on our birthday

? Advice to those who are entering into their 20s?
Jo: If you just entering your 20s, Welcome to adulthood~
My advice … Live & Be happy. Do what you love. Learn about yourself as much as you can. Learn new things. Try new things. and use SPF HAHA!

Sue: This is an exciting time. Like what Jo said, "Learn about yourself as much as you can". It's the time you get to choose what you want to do, what you want to be and be sure to choose wisely who you surround yourself with. .
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Music by Gil Wanders - Lost / Found - https://thmatc.co/?l=297B0B22
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一個很久很久以前做好的cover, 一直沒出, 現在聽到帶回好多當時的回憶, 一直放不下的情緒不停困擾我, 傷害了我愛的人, 把好多情緒收起, 放在一個我不願意打開的箱子裡...

"Sometimes you wish to be selfish, yet love doesn't work like this. We all have choices to make everyday, and I'm trying so hard to make the best ones. Its tough. Days when I'm weak, I wish I can hide away... but in the end, I won’t. For you." I said, someday in 2019.

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Song: Goodbye Days by YUI
Cover: Claudia Koh 許東晴
English Lyrics: Claudia
Acoustic + Electric Guitar: Goo Chan @_goochan_
Video and editing: Ronald Ka Hei @heiplusphotography

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English lyrics:
I can’t drag you down
When you need me the most
So I’ll be strong and stay around

Sometimes I fall
Taking over me like waves
I am still as weak before

How I wish I can be selfish for once
Not holding back, say what I want

Oh goodbye days
I cant
To ever think one day we fail
For life goes on
So long
I know I’m not enough
But I promise you
That I won’t give up on us
La la la la la
With you

No matter how it hurts me you can’t know
Know you don’t like it when i stand alone
Can’t tell you how hard it was to guard my heart
So forgive me when I’ll be apart

Oh goodbye days
I lied
I never meant to say goodbye
Someone just let me know
I’m alright
I know I’m not enough
But I promise you
That I won’t give up on us

Just for a while
Let me go wild
Don’t want to hold in anything no more
Let me dive in down that road

But you and me
That’s all I need
It will kill me to stay this strong for you
But Ill bear anything for you

All of those nights
I cried
I only cry after goodbyes
Don’t want to hide from you
anymore
I’m telling you right now
I promise you
That I won’t give up on us
La la la la
I miss you

#YUI #goodbyedays #englishversion