關於 why we have emotion ，我們在網路上蒐集到這些相關的討論、資訊與評價

SHOULD YOU QUIT YOUR JOB NOW?

“You have to help me quit my job!”

Even though the video was off, I could tell from Bria’s voice that she was in tears. This strong woman couldn’t keep herself together anymore.

“You’re experiencing strong emotions now. That’s very natural,” I said, wanting to help her feel safe and accepted.

After all, Bria and I had only met once in an event. Knowing that I was a coach, she reached out the next day to see if I could help.

If there’s anything I’ve learned from my years of coaching, it’s that when the person is emotional, you need to give them the space to feel it.

So as Bria sobbed, I stayed silent, feeling my belly rise and fall with each breath. After a short while, I could sense that her wave of emotion had passed.

“Shall we take one long easy breath together?” I asked.

I heard her breathing with me. I paused, allowing Bria the time to settle, then I asked her to tell me what’s so difficult to her about her job.

After listening to her sharing, I said: “I can definitely help you, Bria.” I heard a sigh of relief on the other end. “But only if you promise me you won’t quit your job yet.”

3 months after that conversation, Bria waltzed in my office one evening holding a bottle of red wine: “Let’s celebrate!”

She had a giddy grin on her face, the very special grin with a dimple that I’d come to love after many hours supporting her. “Oh! Is it okay for us to drink a glass of wine in our coaching session?” She asked.

I laughed: “Of course. What are we celebrating?”

Bria said, her face brightened even more: “I just realized today that I have the perfect job!”

The most fascinating thing about this story is that the “perfect job” she referred to was the exact same job she had practically begged me to help her quit.

Bria’s circumstances hadn’t changed. But her experiences of the circumstances had changed 180 degrees. Why? Because she did.

Bria’s story teaches me once again, that life is truly created from the inside out.
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早安～每天都覺得心情不美麗嗎？
來讀 #華爾街日報 趕走腦內負能量

💐How to Stop the Negative Chatter in Your Head

打消大腦中的消極念頭

🧸Did you make your New Year’s resolutions? I hope you put “cognitive reappraisal” on the list. Psychologists use this term to refer to the practice of replacing negative thoughts with ones that are both more positive and true. People who control their self-talk in this manner have better mental health, more life satisfaction, and even better-functioning hearts, research shows. Experts say the technique, which is central to Cognitive Behavioral Therapy, is an important skill to master during difficult times. The good news is that you can do it at home.

你的新年目標定好了嗎？我希望你的目標裡有「認知重評」這一項。在心理學中，「認知重評」指的是用更積極、也更真實的想法來代替消極的念頭。研究顯示，能夠以這種方式控制自我對話的人，不僅心理更健康、生活滿意度更高，就連心臟功能也更強大。專家指出，作為「認知行為療法」的核心，認知重評是度過艱難時期需掌握的一項重要技能。好消息是，你在家就可以練習這項技能。

-cognitive reappraisal: 認知重評
-psychologist: 心理學家
-master: 精通

🌞Ethan Kross is an experimental psychologist and neuroscientist who specializes in emotion regulation. He is a professor of psychology and management at the University of Michigan and director of the Emotion & Self Control Laboratory, where he studies the science of introspection, or the silent conversations people have with themselves. He has a new book coming out this month called “Chatter: The Voice in Our Head, Why it Matters, and How to Harness It.”

實驗心理學家、神經科學家伊桑·克洛斯(Ethan Kross)是情緒控制方面的專家，他目前在密歇根大學擔任心理學及管理學教授，同時還兼任情緒及自我控制實驗室(Emotion & Self Control Laboratory)的主任。在這家實驗室裡，克洛斯主要研究與自省相關的課題，所謂自省，就是人們與自己進行的一場無聲對話。今年1月，他的新書《碎碎念：腦中的聲音、它的重要性以及如何掌控它》(Chatter: The Voice in Our Head, Why it Matters, and How to Harness It)出版。

-specialize in sth: 精通某事
-introspection: 自我省察、自省
-chatter: 碎碎念
-harness: 運用、掌控

🍀Does everyone talk to themselves?
Dr. Kross: Yes. There are lots of ways we use language internally. We use it to keep things fresh in our heads, like repeating a phone number. We try to simulate what we are planning to say, like when we go on an interview or a date. We talk to ourselves when we’re trying to or when we are trying to solve a problem. When we are doing something difficult, we mentally walk ourselves through the steps we need to take. Self-talk helps us to author the stories of our life, to capture stories that explain what we have gone through. Even if our self-talk is negative, that doesn’t always mean it’s bad. We can learn things from painful experiences that help us grow and improve.

每個人都會和自己對話嗎？
克洛斯：沒錯。我們和自己對話的方式有很多種。為了讓自己記住某件事，我們會和自己說話，比如不斷重複一個電話號碼；有時候自我對話是為了排演某個場景，比如在面試或約會之前；還有的時候，當我們想努力控制自己，或是想要解決某個問題時，也會自說自話。在遇到難事兒時，我們也會在腦海中構想自己需要採取哪些步驟。
這種自我對話可以幫助我們書寫生活裡的故事，記錄我們經歷的點點滴滴。即便自我對話有時很消極，也並不總是意味著它一無是處。痛苦的經歷可以教會我們成長，幫助我們不斷改進。

-capture: 捕捉
-painful: 痛苦的

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#甜點給我好心情
#運動揮灑汗水
#和自己獨處對話
#看點放鬆影片

這是我們每天的日常(其實片段是幾年前拍下的，Yobi自上年已經爬不上樓梯了)。我們每天外出，我都要無數次重複自己的理念：「不是不讓大家拍照，只希望您能夠先問一聲！」。尤其是在狗狗上廁所、我在清潔、我拿著屎屎去屎桶的時候。調過來，同樣事情發生在您身上，您又作何感想呢？當然大家亦有自己的選擇，但我可以有自己的選擇嗎？！
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大家都經常掛在口邊要講「初衷」、「原則」、「堅持」，我有啊！但為何我不讓您拍照，而我又變成仆街呢？！當我阻止大家拍照和解釋我的理念，大家可能會感到被冒犯甚至不悅，但首先大家有冇理會過我的感受先呢？我阻止第一個和解釋的時候，會好聲好氣；但到第十個、第二十個，我不是機械人、我都有情緒.....
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希望大家不要合理化拍照這回事，這不是什麼人權或自由，這是禮貌和尊重的事！大家經常都說台灣、日本當地人很有人情味很有禮貌，那我們自己的人情味往那裏去了呢？只去嚮往他人的，而自己又不去改變的，那這世界走落去會怎麼樣呢？不知自從那天起，很多人都只會在網上聊天，而人對人、面對面，就只會拿着手機過活，大家有幾多時候已經沒有再關心過身邊的人呢..... ？亦有些朋友可能遭到拒絕而感到不悅，在網絡上誣捏我會收人錢，$20/$50/$100不等，才可以影狗狗；但亦有無數的朋友可以作證，他們都跟狗狗拍過照，不用付款，只需要問一聲！不知情的朋友亦會相信自己選擇去相信的，實在無奈..... 如果認真便真的死了！我絕不介意跟大家分享，只希望大家能與人多一點關心、交流和溝通！
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This’s Our Daily Life (Btw, the clips were taken few years ago, and Yobi ain’t able to climb up the staircase since last year). Meanwhile we go out everyday, I have to repeat thousands of times : “It ain’t about NO PHOTO, but Please Ask Before U Snap”. Especially when doggies they pee/poo, when am cleaning after, when am carrying tons of pops. Try to imagine, what if the same shit is happening to yourself, how U feel?! U may have ur own perception/choice, but can I have mine?!
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People did study “May I?!”, “Would U mind?!” at school, but how come I stop U taking a photo and then I became impossible?! When I stop people taking a photo, try to explain why, and they may probably feel bad or offensive, but actually did people care how I feel the first place?! Am truly calm and patience when I stop and explain to the first one or second one, but when I talk to the tenth, the twentieth, I feel very very annoyed and pissed off..... Am not a robot, I have my emotion too. This ain’t sorts freedom or human rights, but courtesy and respect!
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Many people say they feel a lot the warmness and friendliness of the people when visiting TaiWan and Japan, but where is ours then?! I don’t know since when, people do communicate on social media’s, but they won’t talk to people face to face and became mute and deaf, for how long we didn’t care people around?!
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I never mind to share the happiness of the pack with people, am just expecting more and more people shall get engaged positively! They 5 are having photos with numerous people everyday, a reward to those people whom did ask for one politely!
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*拍照前請先打招呼詢問一下哦
*拍照前請先注意交通安全哦
*狗狗上廁所時請不要拍照哦
*我清理和拿著狗狗便便時請不要拍照哦
*摸狗狗前請先問一下
*我們鼓勵人與人之間應該多聯繫
*打個招呼拍拍照何樂而不為
*PleaseGreetAndAskBeforeYouSnap
*PleasePayAttentionToTrafficBeforeYouSnap
*PleaseDoNotSnapWhenDoggiesPeeAndPoo
*PleaseDoNotSnapWhenAmCleaningAndCarryingTheirPoops
*PleaseAskBeforeYouPat
*WeAreEncouragingHumanEngagement
*NothingToLooseToSayHi

Fujii Kaze - "YASASHISA"


▶︎ Kaze talks about “YASASHISA”
https://youtu.be/0aNPiwTdISg

▶︎ "YASASHISA" Behind The Scenes
https://youtu.be/HE_C0Qx9hhc


Director：Kento Yamada
Director of Photography：Tomoyuki Kawakami
Camera Chief：Issei Muraoka (NEWTOWN)
Camera Assistant：Yutaka Adachi / Hideo Shuto / Kohei Shimazu
Steadicam：Yasutomo Kevin Yoshida
Steadicam Assistant：Daichi Hayashi
Lighting Director：Koshiro Ueno
Lighting Chief：Masaki Tsuchiya
Art Designer：Chihiro Matsumoto (R.mond)
Hair & Make-up：Tomomi Taniguchi
Stylist：Ikumi Koyama
Production Manager Yukari Itabashi (SEP)
Producer：Hazuki Hasegawa (SEP)

Cast：Midori Aoi (CENTRAL)



☆ 05.20(wed) release 1st ALBUM "HELP EVER HURT NEVER"(CD)
▶️ https://Fujii-Kaze.lnk.to/HEHN

1. Nan-Nan
2. Mo-Eh-Wa
3. YASASHISA
4. Cause It's Endless
5. Flavor Of Sin
6. Cho Si Noccha Te
7. Tokuni Nai
8. I'd Rather Die
9. Hey Mr.Wind
10. SAYONARA Baby
11. Kaerou


【First Edition】 ¥4,000(+tax) UMCK-7064/5
＜Bonus＞
・Special booklet
・HELP EVER HURT COVER ＜11 songs＞
1. Close To You
2. Shape Of You
3. Back Stabbers
4. Alfie
5. Be Alright
6. Beat It
7. Don't Let Me Be Misunderstood
8. My Eyes Adored You
9. Shake It Off
10. Stronger Than Me
11. Time After Time

【Normal Edition】 ¥3,000(+tax) UMCK-1659
【Digital】 ¥2,100(+tax)

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Kindness
Written by Fujii Kaze
Prod by Yaffle

Mixing Engineer Masahito Komori
Recording Engineer Yoshimasa Wakui
Recorded at Bunkamura Studio / studio MSR
Mixed at ABS RECORDING STUDIO
Mastering Engineer Tsubasa Yamazaki
Mastered at EELOW

1st Violin Rina Odera
2nd Violin Sayuri Yano
Viola Takahiro Enokido
Cello Yuki Mizuno
Acoustic Piano Fujii Kaze


What were you looking at now, I dreamt about you
I got killed by kindness, in the shade of his tree
What were you looking at now, I saw the shadow of you
I was shivering with kindness, in that arms

I am cold when I touch the warmth
I am small when I touch the kindness

Your heart is too big for this big world
There's nothing I can do but swim in it

Tiny, Empty, I have nothing at all
To be treated with kindness always makes me feel ashamed

Before I knew it, I lose it
That's why your gaze is deeply engraved in my heart

What were you looking at now, I was looking at your eyes
I got killed by kindness, in the shade of his tree
What were you looking at now, I saw the shadow of you
I was shivering with kindness, in that arms

Go back and find the affection we left behind
Bring back the emotion filled with warm feelings now
Frozen heart melting into love
Flowering season is coming back


What were you looking at now, I was looking at your eyes
I got killed by kindness, in the shade of his tree
That was good enough, Stronger than anything
Kindness was the best, was the only thing we needed...

Guys! We're entering a new decade in less than 10 days! The 2020! How crazy?! Honestly, idk what to expect, but here's some recap of what has been going on in my life. As I'm watching the final cut, it reminded me of why I stopped editing videos. The constant cycle of listening to my own voice, I don't know how other people deal with it and I have high respect for that lol.

Anyway, this video might sound a lil emo, but that's just how 2019 has been to me. But as you can see the contrast there is that, most of the footages are the happy ones. We are all guilty of letting sadness override our emotion, but what about the happy moments? Cuz let's face it, the world isn't such a bad place. Stop feeling sorry for yourself, and focus on how we can make things right instead. Cherish every little moment. I'm thankful that I recorded these down, watching them reminds me of all the great time I've had with all the people I love.

Never let the sadness of your past and the fear of your future ruin the happiness of your present.

So, thank you for being there with me! Have a Merry Merry Christmas and a Happy New Year.

ps: I've spent 24 hours editing this video and I should really go back to doing my coursework. And why do Unis think that it's a good idea to have exam right after New Year's break????? Who TH spends Xmas studying? Oh right, me.

x, jo

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