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A little impromptu neighborhood unChristmas Christmas party ❤️

As you celebrate this season, I hope you truly gather, eat, drink, and be merry. As mamas, we are the host, the organizer, the planner, the worriers and I really wanted to just be able to relax and enjoy our time together.

Some top #kacaumamahack (s) for having a good stress-free time:

1. Lay/set up everything the night before.
When you can put on some music, light some candles, take your time and just enjoy the process of it. It’s one of my favorite parts of having a party : mixing and matching, imagining, dreaming. It’s the theater girl in me, I love the journey. Instead of freaking out and throwing stuff together the day of the party, I can just take my time and the best part is, I had meetings the whole day with only about 30 mins of when I got home to when guests would arrive and it was so simple because I already knew where everything went, where, and just had to put it out. I cut, washed, prepped all the fruits and veggie sticks the night before too.

2. Take shortcuts!
A little plating will take you a long way. I literally bought all the snacks and desserts from Marks and Spencer 🙌🙌🙌 and just took it out of the packages and served it on boards and platters! 😂

The lovely cheese board kit came from the always amazing KEJU and Wishful.my which also included the prettiest little drink jar that I repurposed as decor instead!

For mains, I ordered the most delicious vegetarian mac and cheese (sooooo good!!!), chicken mac and cheese, as well as some really yummy roast chicken sets (includes veggies!) from Dignity for Children Foundation - an organization that supports continuous education for the underprivileged and refugee communities as well as providing them jobs and skills. It really was so very good and Ella Grace’s face lit up completely when she realized it was her favorite chicken w her favorite sauce from her favorite cafe! (Eat x Dignity!)

3. Cleaners day before and after
Book the cleaners to come the day before so you don’t have to worry about cleaning and having everything spic and span for the guests as well as the day after so you’re not stressing about sticky floors, a million dishes, and cleaning up!

4. Minimal clean-up
Not the most zero waste option but we also opted for disposable plates and cutlery. We tried to go a little greener w biodegradable products made from palm leaves. The best option would be to use real plates and cutlery but I will be very honest, mama was tired.

5. GATHER
Last but not least, enjoy yourself. When the guests come, walk away from the table. Get everyone a drink then sit down and hang out. Listen to their stories, be present. Enjoy your time together. Open up the table and let the kids destroy the house and have fun. It’s their party too.

If anything breaks, it’s replaceable. If kids have a tantrum, they have a voice too. Show your tribe the shit room you’ve stuffed all the mess into, wear something comfortable, sit and eat and break bread together.

That’s the heart of gathering with your tribe. The highlight REAL. The loving. The seeing.

We love you mama, enjoy this season. ❤️

Ps. Tomorrow, I’ll share all my secrets on prepping your child for the party so everyone has a good time..littles included!

Shout-out to my mamas juggling a billion things in their life. Work, everyone’s schedules, school commitments, friend birthdays, Christmas shopping, social calendar, nap times, routines, is everyone fed?, oh no, it’s time to cook again, who am I again? What’s my name?

It’s hard, this constant juggle as a mama. Last weekend, I had to man and host a pop-up store with my husband (we own a gift line called rachealkate - come check us out at Playground Borneo in Publika or the full list is in our newsletter this month - check your emails!!) and we shuffled between watching Ella Grace, hosting visitors, trying to keep all the balls juggled at the same time.

Motherhood feels a lot like this constant juggle between the immense responsibility for our children - their well-being, health, development, and a kazillion other things along with the guilt, the pressure, the balance, our marriages, etc etc.

It’s Monday, the kids are off to school, everyone’s a little hungover from the weekend, if you’re lucky, you finally have just a few minutes to breathe so here are some top tips for staying sane as a mama:

1. BREATHE
It sounds so simple but it’s the heart of motherhood. Breathe. Take a deep breath in and let it out even slower. Repeat a few times until you feel your body physically relaxing. When you take deep long breaths, it tells your body that we aren’t in any threat. That all is good. To uncoil and even as you do that right now, notice how much clearer your mind feels, how much more open your body feels, how much your lungs needed that deep breath. One breath at a time mama, just keep breathing.

2. REST
I’m the guiltiest of this. Forgetting that we need an inhale before an exhale, a pause, a break. Genuine self-care isn’t always massages or baths, genuine self-care is asking yourself what you need and for moms, a lot of times, it’s a break to refuel. A nap. To just go to bed even though there’s a million trillion things that Cinderella still needs to do and if you don’t do this after teeny tiny sleeps, you’ll never be able to get it done.

This weekend, it was just sitting down as I put Ella Grace to nap on the go. It was allowing myself a break instead of multitasking. It was just ten minutes, but that little break fueled me for the next eight hours. Rest mama, you can’t pour from an empty cup.

3. BE REMINDED THAT YOU MATTER
The hardest things we do as mamas is learning to receive instead of give. It’s a lesson I have had to learn over and over again. Who can I call to remind me that I am loved? What safe places can I build in my life to be poured into instead of out? I’m a giver, I love and love and love on others and the privilege is to allow others to love on me too.

My best friend showed up at my pop-up and it meant the world. She came and sat in the boat with me, she didn’t try to make it better or silver line positive thinking it, she just sat with me in the hard heart work. I see you. I hear you. You matter.

Where can you go to be seen, heard, be reminded you matter? What is the hard that you need to conquer to create these relationships?

4. YOUR WORTH IS NOT DEPENDENT ON OTHERS
When we feel our least and most vulnerable, it’s so easy to see all the things we are not, all the things that we are not enough, all the places we don’t belong.

There’s this ugly mama guilt that people never speak about. How it consumes us and speaks to us in the harshest voice. It’s comparison and jealousy, it’s pitting one mama against the other, it isolates and lies and tells you that you don’t belong.

I cannot tell you the amount of times I have sat in the sacred w another mama, who shines and is worthy but feels like she’s failing and not enough. I wish she could turn off the highlight reels of other people’s lives, quiet the judgment that competes, realize her messy chaos crazy motherhood is the heart of what makes her her and that so many would not change what they know and love of her.

We wear so many faces as women. We think we have to be certain people in certain spaces. But what if we just gave ourselves permission to be us? Vulnerable, messy, love out loud, heart on our sleeves, mamas? What could we build from that space? What would we teach our equally as vulnerable, messy, love out loud, heart on their sleeves teeny tinies?

5. YOU DON’T HAVE TO DO IT ALONE
I call myself a mama tribe advocate because it’s something I passionately and absolutely believe in. We can’t and weren’t meant to do this alone. We need our kampung, our littles need their village, we cannot do it alone.

And here’s the part that we all get so wrong sometimes, a tribe isn’t just for the hard and the ugly, a tribe is also for the good and the amazing. For the celebrating and that showing up, on your best and on your worst.

We’ve forgotten how to play, how to just live in the moment and have a million “best days ever!”, how to gather and just do life together.

Ella Grace thought this was the best day ever because our tribe showed up. They loved on her, they loved on us. They helped with the caring and the playing, the seeing and the believing and in the hardest of yards, when my working mama guilt hit me hard because this little big girl was working a nine hour shift w us, another working mama said I get it. I see you. Can I sit in the boat with you and it made all the difference in the world.

So the heart of this is, welcome to our mama tribe. Welcome to our crazy and our chaos and our messy. We do real and hard and love in here. I give you tips and tools and I learn with you. We make mistakes, we try again, we learn to do better.

We are mamas, hear us ROAR.

(and rest)

❤️❤️❤️

Shout-out to my mamas juggling a billion things in their life. Work, everyone’s schedules, school commitments, friend birthdays, Christmas shopping, social calendar, nap times, routines, is everyone fed?, oh no, it’s time to cook again, who am I again? What’s my name?

It’s hard, this constant juggle as a mama. Last weekend, I had to man and host a pop-up store with my husband (we own a gift line called rachealkate - come check us out at Playground Borneo in Publika or the full list is in our newsletter this month - check your emails!!) and we shuffled between watching Ella Grace, hosting visitors, trying to keep all the balls juggled at the same time.

Motherhood feels a lot like this constant juggle between the immense responsibility for our children - their well-being, health, development, and a kazillion other things along with the guilt, the pressure, the balance, our marriages, etc etc.

It’s Monday, the kids are off to school, everyone’s a little hungover from the weekend, if you’re lucky, you finally have just a few minutes to breathe so here are some top tips for staying sane as a mama:

1. BREATHE
It sounds so simple but it’s the heart of motherhood. Breathe. Take a deep breath in and let it out even slower. Repeat a few times until you feel your body physically relaxing. When you take deep long breaths, it tells your body that we aren’t in any threat. That all is good. To uncoil and even as you do that right now, notice how much clearer your mind feels, how much more open your body feels, how much your lungs needed that deep breath. One breath at a time mama, just keep breathing.

2. REST
I’m the guiltiest of this. Forgetting that we need an inhale before an exhale, a pause, a break. Genuine self-care isn’t always massages or baths, genuine self-care is asking yourself what you need and for moms, a lot of times, it’s a break to refuel. A nap. To just go to bed even though there’s a million trillion things that Cinderella still needs to do and if you don’t do this after teeny tiny sleeps, you’ll never be able to get it done.

This weekend, it was just sitting down as I put Ella Grace to nap on the go. It was allowing myself a break instead of multitasking. It was just ten minutes, but that little break fueled me for the next eight hours. Rest mama, you can’t pour from an empty cup.

3. BE REMINDED THAT YOU MATTER
The hardest things we do as mamas is learning to receive instead of give. It’s a lesson I have had to learn over and over again. Who can I call to remind me that I am loved? What safe places can I build in my life to be poured into instead of out? I’m a giver, I love and love and love on others and the privilege is to allow others to love on me too.

My best friend showed up at my pop-up and it meant the world. She came and sat in the boat with me, she didn’t try to make it better or silver line positive thinking it, she just sat with me in the hard heart work. I see you. I hear you. You matter.

Where can you go to be seen, heard, be reminded you matter? What is the hard that you need to conquer to create these relationships?

4. YOUR WORTH IS NOT DEPENDENT ON OTHERS
When we feel our least and most vulnerable, it’s so easy to see all the things we are not, all the things that we are not enough, all the places we don’t belong.

There’s this ugly mama guilt that people never speak about. How it consumes us and speaks to us in the harshest voice. It’s comparison and jealousy, it’s pitting one mama against the other, it isolates and lies and tells you that you don’t belong.

I cannot tell you the amount of times I have sat in the sacred w another mama, who shines and is worthy but feels like she’s failing and not enough. I wish she could turn off the highlight reels of other people’s lives, quiet the judgment that competes, realize her messy chaos crazy motherhood is the heart of what makes her her and that so many would not change what they know and love of her.

We wear so many faces as women. We think we have to be certain people in certain spaces. But what if we just gave ourselves permission to be us? Vulnerable, messy, love out loud, heart on our sleeves, mamas? What could we build from that space? What would we teach our equally as vulnerable, messy, love out loud, heart on their sleeves teeny tinies?

5. YOU DON’T HAVE TO DO IT ALONE
I call myself a mama tribe advocate because it’s something I passionately and absolutely believe in. We can’t and weren’t meant to do this alone. We need our kampung, our littles need their village, we cannot do it alone.

And here’s the part that we all get so wrong sometimes, a tribe isn’t just for the hard and the ugly, a tribe is also for the good and the amazing. For the celebrating and that showing up, on your best and on your worst.

We’ve forgotten how to play, how to just live in the moment and have a million “best days ever!”, how to gather and just do life together.

Ella Grace thought this was the best day ever because our tribe showed up. They loved on her, they loved on us. They helped with the caring and the playing, the seeing and the believing and in the hardest of yards, when my working mama guilt hit me hard because this little big girl was working a nine hour shift w us, another working mama said I get it. I see you. Can I sit in the boat with you and it made all the difference in the world.

So the heart of this is, welcome to our mama tribe. Welcome to our crazy and our chaos and our messy. We do real and hard and love in here. I give you tips and tools and I learn with you. We make mistakes, we try again, we learn to do better.

We are mamas, hear us ROAR.

(and rest)

❤️❤️❤️