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Good morning!
I'm writing an article on protective behaviors and thought it was so important that I share some of the safeguards that we use online with Ella Grace. We live a pretty public life but there are a few key areas that we are especially vigilant on in order to protect her.
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1. NO LIVE POSTING
If you follow me on social media, you'll notice that very rarely do we live post unless we're on holiday somewhere really far away or have a specific event that we have agreed to live post on. It's why I only instastory at night and not always on the same day. This helps me help her keep safe from strangers knowing our schedule, where we are at what time or even knowing where we are right now.
2. NO SCHOOL PICTURES
Every mama has their crazy and this is certifiably mine. I am fiercely protective of people knowing where Ella Grace goes to school and we are very strict about not posting any school pictures online at all. I also made up Ella Grace's very non-descript uniform and the days that she does wear a school shirt, we either change after or I just don't post any pictures of her in it. I also delete any comments that make any reference to her school or her school friends (please be mindful of other people's littles too!) and we don't let her school post any marketing material that has her face on it.
3. NO SPECIFICS
While we do share a lot online, we are quite strict about not posting specifics like which playgroups we go to or what days we plan on going to it, what days her activities are and where, which pediatricians she sees, what events we are attending together for the week (unless it's a specific meet and greet). Again, it's so no one really can keep track of your routine or whereabouts and even if they figure it out, it takes a lot more work, thus making your little less vulnerable to being a victim.
4. NO HASHTAGS
I have quite a few hashtags that I use for work but Ella Grace doesn't have a generic one that I use for all her posts. While it isn't that hard to put her face to her name or how she’s definitely prominently featured on most of my posts (hi mama 😂😅), this is usually suggested so pedophiles don’t have instant easy access to a catalog of your child’s pictures.
5. NO PRIVATE PHOTOS / NO BIKINIS
In line with that, I also am really protective about the kind of photos she takes. Strictly no naked photos, photos of her on the toilet, photos of her in any compromising position or wearing anything that wouldn't be considered as modest swimwear. If we are on a photoshoot and she has to change outfits, I make sure that she does it either in a private area or that the photographer puts down his/her gear.
6. NO ADDRESSES
To protect ourselves and our friends, if I post a location of a home, it is usually quite generic. We have a mailing box for partnership deliveries and I don't give out our home address and try to avoid even mentioning the area if I can.
7. NO PERSONALIZED ANYTHING
While my OCD heart loves personalized anything, I don't personalize or embroider her name on her clothes, lunchbox, backpack, uniform, water bottle, etc. I might label it in a discreet place but never big enough that anyone off the street would immediately know her name by looking at it or if there was a picture taken of her, it's not instantly, her name is Ella Grace and she looks like this. Remember for little ones, if a stranger knows their name and calls them, they might go to them as they are still learning the difference between a nice stranger and trusted friend.
8. WOULD SHE MIND IF SHE READ/SAW THIS?
This is what I always come to when I'm writing stories or using her as my example, would she mind if she read or saw this as an adult later? Am I being respectful of her story and her journey? Am I using her story in the right way or is it just to make fun of her and something she might be embarassed of later?
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While it's a lot more trickier for us to keep her sheltered online, it's a decision that my husband and I made together. We sat down and discussed the safeguards we felt passionately about and made sure that we had plans in place to keep her safe.
Not everyone will have the same amount of mama bear crazy, my hope in sharing this is that you'll be able to make an informed decision for whatever works for your family.
Everyone parents differently and that's okay. Share this but don't judge. Protect your mama tribe but don't shame. Awareness is key and I know this with all my heart that mamas standing up and showing up for one another can change the world.
Let's keep those babies safe! <3
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Racheal Kwacz is a Child and Family Development Specialist, women's leadership speaker and mama tribe advocate. As creator of the ‘RACHEAL Method’, she combines her 20+ years experience working with children in the USA and in Asia with the foundations of ‘Respectful Parenting’, leading parents and teachers around the world in raising kind, confident, compassionate, resilient little ones.
Racheal is also an avid supporter of women for women and loves speaking on authentic leadership and community.
【相煎何太急】(English writing below)
「90%以上的風水師都把基本原理搞錯了！」
那天看到某個剛出道的本地年輕人，在其網站上如此寫著。
我第一個感想就是：有必要為了錢，就這樣踩人和騙人嗎？
全世界的風水師，你都見證過他們的功夫嗎？
遠的不說，就說說新加坡吧！全職、兼職、玩票性質的都算的話，我想可能有幾千幾百位風水師。有的是拜師學藝或祖傳的，有的是在外上課程，然後就自己出來看。
這些你全部都已摸清他們的底細，來下此結論嗎？還是是道聽途說？
如果沒有真實查證，那就是在唬人，故意讓看過其他師父的客人，內心生起不安而來找你。
很大的口氣，很不道德的行銷法，來博名利雙收。
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幾年前，有位女風水師寫貼文抹黑我。我的一位風水講座的出席者好心為我打抱不平，安慰我之餘，告訴我她的朋友認識那位風水師，而她的性傾向是......
我沒給她說完，便切斷她的話：「我們再講下去，就是在聊是非了。這不是我的作風。」
抹黑我和她喜歡誰是兩碼事。
抹黑我，來贏得臉書上的讚，是她人品的問題。我如果取笑她的性傾向，那就是我人格的問題。己所不欲，勿施於人，我沒有想要在背後傷害她，何必同流合污呢？
再說，喜歡誰，不影響我們的專業能力和志向。
只是說，一個會製造假象的風水師，客人是否還可以把自己和家人的命運交到她手中？
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某位女讀者告訴我，她家人和馬國一位有名風水師的經歷。說著說著，她提到這位風水師不會說華文。字裡行間彷彿帶著取笑的味道。
我回她說，我不討論別人的是是非非。
這風水師能把中華玄學帶到全世界，讓洋人對我們華人文化刮目相看，也是美事一樁。再說，他的崛起也讓年輕的華人再度重視中華玄學。我們為何要去挑他的不足來興論一番？有何意義呢？口袋不會多一點錢，造了口業，自己的福報還會被扣給他，不值得。
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我們風水命理師都必須精通八卦學，為的是去利益眾生，而不是把自己變成「八卦新聞台」，去娛樂大家。
套我大師姐以前常跟我說的一句話：「不要自己的餅乾做不好，而變成一個“笑餅”。」
外面已經有很多人看不起我們，不相信我們，甚至取笑我們是「無知識」、「搞神通」、「騙人錢」的江湖術士。如果我們風水師都在那兒，又是屠龍刀又是倚天劍又是降龍十八掌的自相殘殺，人家只是看笑話而已。不但贏不到客人，我們還終歸是最大的輸家。
無論是什麼學派的風水，追溯到底的話，大家『本是同根生』。
各位英雄豪傑，何不把精力用在教育大眾，以身試範如何做個上等人，以配得起一個上等命呢？
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"More than 90% Feng Shui practitioners are doing the basics wrong!"
I saw this from website of a young Feng Shui entrepreneur, who just started to ply his trade.
My first thought was: is it necessary to trample over others and deceive others, for the sake of money?
Have you witnessed the abilities of all Feng Shui Masters from all over the world?
Let's not go too far, and just take Singapore for instance. If we include all the full-timers, part-timers and hobbyists, I think there are easily several hundreds, if not thousands, Feng Shui practitioners. Some of them studied under a Master for years, while some acquire the knowledge from their ancestors. And there are those who become consultants, after attending external courses.
Did you do a very thorough check on their skills, before drawing this conclusion? Or did you base your statement on hearsay?
If there is no verifiable truth and authentic checks, then you are just trying to bluff your way through. You deliberately stir up emotions of insecurity in people who have consulted other masters, so as to lure them to you.
What big words. What unethical way of marketing just to make yourself some money.
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Few years ago, a lady Feng Shui practitioner wrote untruths about me on her FB. One workshop participant of mine felt unjust for me, and as she offered words of consolation to me, she mentioned that a friend of hers knew that Feng Shui practitioner whose sexual orientation was actually...
I did not let her finish her words, "If we continue talking about this, we would be engaging in gossip. That is not my style."
Smearing my name and who she likes are two different matters.
To defame me so as to win more FB Likes is a problem in her character. If I laugh at her sexual orientation with others so as to feel better, that becomes my morality problem. Do not do unto others what you do not wish for others to do to you. I have no intention to hurt her behind her back, so why should I wallow in the mire together?
Moreover, whoever we like does not have any influence on our professional capability and aspiration.
The only thing that matters: Is a Feng Shui practitioner who deliberately creates falsehoods deserving of clients' trust, for them to place their destinies and families in her hands?
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One female reader told me about her family's experience with a well-known Feng Shui master. As the conversation progressed, she mentioned how this master was unable to speak Mandarin. There seemed to be a hidden veil of mockery in her words.
My reply to her: I do not gossip about others.
This Feng Shui Master brought Chinese Metaphysics to the whole world, allowing the Westerners to sit up and take notice of our Chinese culture. That is a good thing after all. Secondly, his emergence inspired the younger generation of Chinese to pay attention to Chinese Metaphysics once again. Why should we focus on his weak point and make a hooha about it? What meaning is there? Not like we will have more money in our pockets. Also when we commit sins in our speech by gossiping about him, we will cede our good fortune to him.
No way is it worth it.
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As Chinese Metaphysics practitioners, we have to study the Bagua very well to be able to benefit sentient beings. Not study gossip and become an entertainment news station for the amusement of the masses.
There are already many outsiders who look down on us, disbelieve us and even laugh at us as conmen who are ignorant, promoting supernatural stuff and cheat others of money. If we continue to cut at one another's throats, these people will just be eating popcorn as they watch us.
Instead of winning over more clients, we will turn out to be the biggest losers.
No matter what school of Feng Shui we are from, if we trace all the way back to the origins, we are all born from the same root.
To all fellow heroes and comrades, why don't we focus our efforts in educating the masses? Lead by example and demonstrate to them how to be a first-class human worthy of a premium Destiny.
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