Happy Singles Day
No human being can survive without connection. I almost didn’t make it a few years ago with a heart break of how the world lacked connection. But what saved me was because I made was a choice to first live this connection in my life without waiting for anyone to start.
I remembered inviting friends to my house for meals and no one would show up because they told me I lived too far away. And I invited all the industry to a birthday get together one year on the island I lived on, and again it was too far. I could just hold onto this hurt and heart-break of being rejected but I could also simply make the choice to take the first step to go to people. And I did.
I would go out of way to meet people and my family because before anything else, connection is the most important factor in my life. Because my husband worked late I would meet him at his work place, It was not a need but I would not give up any opportunity if we could spend it together. His rhythm is very different from mine, so I would find time to cuddle with him even though he sleeps when I wake up. Every little moment matters.
It is the same with my son, imagine him growing up and if as a parent I harbored the belief that when a child reaches a certain age a parent could no longer hug him or kiss him on the lips, how would a sensitive being feel? We spend time to connect just as human beings—thus breaking down beliefs of what is allowed or not allowed.
The world today direly lacks connection—that is why there are riots, violence and bloodshed. The whole world does not encourage connection as this is actually our choice—for we choose fame and financial gain over it. Not to mention we have to be transparent and vulnerable when we connect. Most of us are just not ready to go there and that’s okay.
But on singles day, do we really want to contribute to more disconnection through a numbing with more consumption or do we want to start bringing connection back into our lives?
We can all tell someone close to us in words or action just how much you treasure and appreciate them today, whether you are single or taken, for we all deserve to be loved and to love.
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#justbelove
